What are your views on fathers that have never seen there child?

Answer 1

I think it is selfish and disgusting how men can just turn around and walk away, thinking only of themselves. It is so repulsive that I can not even type anything else right now. These men and I use this term lightly, need to grow up and start thinking of someone other than themselve for a change.
Luckily for children though there are men out there that are willing to step up to the plate, even though they aren't their kids, pity that these men throw away what is theirs and someone else will come in and love as if they were their own. But it takes a certain type of man to be a daddy, not just a sperm donor.

Answer 2

My view is that it is irresponsible. That child will always wonder where and what their daddy is or looks like. How a person who has contributed half towards a person with a soul and a part of them doesnt know about them is sad. They are misssing out by not experiencing the gift and the opportunity not to know or love a best friend that will put so many smiles on their face.

I understand it isnt easy for some people with various issues, but with no excuse it is not giving the child a choice and they are missing out too. One day it may be regrettable and too late.

Answer 3

Wow. This topic is vast. But I'l try to touch on what I believe is important.

I know many women whom of which are raising their children without fathers. I believe that the success of the child all depends on the emotional adjustment that the mother has made to move on and more importantly to forgive. When mothers (or anyone for that matter) hold on to unforgiveness their child will learn to do the same. Which I do not recommend. It' not about letting (him) off the hook; its about acknowledging that life has a bigger and better plan for you; and that he (the father) is not a part of it.

Most women beat up on themselves for making poor choices in a partner; but the past is the past and the child is no accident. The only thing you can do in the now is embrace your child with unconditional love.

Children with at least one missing parent will struggle with their own personal identities. The degree varies however. It can be a brush off the shoulder to intense therapy from feelings of abandonment. How much a fatherless child actually struggle depends on how the other parent ultimately chose to raise that child. Will she do it out of duty and obligation without love or will she raise her child out of the understanding that a child is a miracle gift?

Fathers who chose to not partake in their children's lives; actually sometimes do their children a favor. A child success all depends on the emotional well being of an adult. And, honey hush...when a man chooses not to be around...well who wants him around anyway....?

When one parent has a high sense of self-esteem, it is automatically injected into the child; raising the success rate of the child to grow into an emotionally stable adult....

The most important thing that a single mother/parent can do is to empower their children to not be victims. If a parent chooses to not be around, the message should be that even though people can hurt you...you still can succeed and be whomever you want to be...

Isn't that what we all want?

M.

Answer 4

I think that there are a lot of women out there who just want a baby or are sleeping around and don't really care about who the father is. Therefore I think that is is the man's choice whether or not to see the child. If it is because the man is just being a jerk, then who cares anyway, that child doesn't need a father like that!

Answer 5

They are not fathers they are donors. Fathers are there daily for their children whether in person or by phone. They hug, kiss boo-boos and read bedtime stories. They sit up worrying when their child has a fever or a virus. What you are talking about is a sperm donor, not a father. And just because you just happened to be the donor does not make you more of a father than the step-dad who does all of the hard -work and provides all the love.

Answer 6

I grew up like this. I think its a sad situation for the child. Not having a dad to get gifts from, or spend fathers day with. However, if its like my case, you get used to the fact that you only have one parent, it becomes everyday life for the child. However, if your child does start to have trouble facing the facts about his or hers father, I'd consider going to counseling. This really helped me work through stuff when I was going through the problem as a child

Answer 7

If they are doing this willingly then I would view them as selfish and irresponsible. If you are going to have sex then you need to step up to the plate when the "OOPS" happens. Why should the mother be the only one to raise the baby that TWO people made?

Answer 8

they arent no father then,their just a donor.to be a father you need to be in your childs life.anybody can make a baby it takes a real man to raise it.

Answer 9

My ex-husband didn't see our daughter for the first 12 years of her life. Then, when he did start seeing her he molested her. I wish to God that he would never have laid eyes on her.

Answer 10

i think it's their choice, i guess, since i don't know any of the background information. however, i also think it's terribly selfish to create a child and then have nothing to do with it.