I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years 4 months ago. My life was really stressful and the relationship was going downhill. He was everything to me; my best friend, my rock. He was there for me all the time and he always knew what to say, but I could tell I was wearing him out and he was getting tired of all my stress. I still cry almost every day and I've done everything to keep myself busy, but in the few moments I'm left alone I call him and beg him to come back to me. I become desperate and I know it makes me look stupid, but I want him back so bad and I would do anything to change to make things easier for him. He told me he doesn't want to date again, but I feel that if I talk to him again and we get close, then he'll see a difference and fall back in love with me.
Am I just wasting my time or is it worth risking your pride for the one you love? The pain seems to never go away.
2007-03-19 14:58:55 · 11 answers · asked by Candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you are doing to this poor guy is unfair..you obviously have a lot of problems and you expect him to fix them for you and he cant....You need to see a counsellor and concentrate on yourself and maybe then he will see you have changed and come back into your life.....Remember he is your boyfriend not a psychiatrist.
2007-03-26 23:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take a step back, and look at why you broke up in the first place. You said that you were wearing him down, and that there was so much stress in your life, causing him to tire of you, and that resulted in the relationship going downhill. Now it is over 2 + years later, and I feel that your situation has not really changed. You have continued to call him repeatedly, beg him to come back to you, claim that you would do anything to change. I am sorry you are heartbroke. However, you are continuing to repeat, the same, suffocating, pressuring, stressful and exhausting pattern of behavior, that I believe caused the original break-up. I think that you also might have a problem with obsession(OCD). Only a Dr. can properly diagnose that type of behavior. You would be helping yourself, emotionally,and maybe physically if you sought out some professional help. You need to let this matter go, and learn how to live a productive, happy, healthy life, without your ex-boyfriend. Best wishes.
2007-03-27 19:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been dating someone off and on for 4+ years now. We eventually come to an impass and break up and we do the "lets be friends and see if we can get over it." it works somewhat, but the old baggage never seems to go away, even if there is real change. if one of you cant get over the pain, let time help reduce the pain, then see if things are different. As long as you and he are friendly toward each other there is always a chance, just dont try to force it. Move on for now is my advice. Move on, but dont burn any bridges.
2007-03-27 20:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by David Parker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
calling him all the time and begging him to come back to you is not the solution. You need to get your life straight first, learn to control your feelings .... Then later on, if you feel that you still need him call him or invite him somewhere( but always stay calm, stop begging or crying), then he could notice that you have changed a lot( of course in the good way) Then may be he is going to be attracted by you again.
But whatever come next, be ready, tell yourself that you might get back together or might not, nothing is 100 percent sure. Good luck
2007-03-27 19:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, what's done is done. You can fix a cracked windshield but it will never be the same and you still wont be able to see through it as clearly. Move on, that's life. To go backwards will only cause you more pain.
2007-03-27 21:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. If he's turned you down multiple times, he's turned you down multiple times.
About your only hope now is to catch him in a weak moment when he wants to use you for casual sex. But you'd have to see him multiple times on that basis before he'd even begin to believe you could be less of a drama queen. And the sex would have to be really great each time, as would the rest of your light-hearted company.
The odds aren't good for you, I'm sorry to say.
2007-03-20 01:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're living in the past because you fear taking charge of your future. Socialize & excersise new skills. Hobbies, friends, novalty, education. Set & achieve little goals. Look forward.
2007-03-27 18:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by LELAND 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up with him if you cared about him? I reckon he's had his heart broken by you and doesn't want to get hurt by you again.
Unfortunately, I don't think there is anything you can do in this situation but leave him alone for his sake. You broke his heart and now you are paying for it.
That's tough, but its your fault. He obviously didn't think your stress was that tiring, otherwise he would have broken up with you.
2007-03-19 22:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by iliketorideigohago 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you really love him and you think he's the one then keep going after him. If he's not the one then your wasting your time.
2007-03-27 18:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by Shante R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when u have already referred to him as ur ex....then that is what he already is. So it is time to move on. u can't make someone fall back in love with u if u don't give him his space. take control of ur emotions and think rationally.
2007-03-27 21:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by Nora C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋