This may seem like a dumb question but its been bothering me for awhile. My mother is a heart surgeon,my dad is an anesthesiologist and my older sister is an agent in hollywood. How am I supposed to liveup to my family. I dont know if I can.I mean I know that it shouldnt bother me but it does. I get pretty good grades. I dont know any advice would help.
2007-03-19 14:55:48 · 11 answers · asked by Gracie P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes im still in high school. And I am kind of the "black sheep" of the family.I know they worked hard for it but I just feel out of place because I want to have some fun.
2007-03-19 15:01:51 · update #1
Finish H.S., get some college info, or career counseling(they give you testing to show your interests & abilities), quit being so hard on yourself. You are good enough just as you are...bless you
2007-03-19 15:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself, girl. Do you really consider that making a ton of money is the only way you'll ever have any value as a person? If so, that's a shame.
Look at your mom: She's a heart surgeon? Definitely not stupid, but "requires no more skill than rebuilding a racecar engine." (I've got a friend in California who is a heart surgeon and that's a quote from him.) She makes money, sure, but is she really happy? I would hope so with the money because that does make happiness a lot easier.
Look at your dad: He's an anesthesiologist? That's fantastic because he can make as much money as your mom - so as long as they're happy together - GREAT!
Agent in Hollywood, huh? Sounds glamorous, doesn't it? It's not. It's a dog-eat-dog industry and I'll bet your sister has a few stories she could tell you that would really make you wonder about her own integrity.
What are YOU passionate about? What do YOU want to do with your life? THAT is what is important. How do YOU want to contribute to the growth of civilization? I'm sure you have some goals - go after them and get them.
I have 5 degrees and I can tell you that education is not the secret to life. Sure, it can help sometimes, but other times it just plain gets in the way. Analysis paralysis is easy to fall into.
Do what you love to do - and work hard to contribute something valuable to everyone you meet. I guarantee you that if you do that, you will be a bigger success than everyone in your family combined. And they will all agree.
Be Great!
2007-03-19 22:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by SEMblogger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever think of urself as a failure take it from me i have been in the same place and now i know ur unique in ur own way no one in my family has finished highschool other then my mother ...neither did i i also had children at 18 now im 26 with 4 and i just got accepted into the best college in our city i am doing better now then i was and maybe u will too it just takes time not everyone is perfect some just become successful faster then others...U are you for a reason and u will be successful at your own pace not what others want besides who's life is it your living ?
2007-03-19 22:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by foxy_devil_child 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as failure . But there is a thing called unacquainted success. You have made success but you may have not had the praise you wanted. Keep trying just don't give up that's the best advice to receive when you feel like a failure
2007-03-19 22:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.Pleasure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youre still in school I dont think anyone can expect you to be any of those things yet. Give yourself time. Your family worked to get where they are and it doesnt come easy. All you have to do is work for what you want no matter what it is.
2007-03-19 21:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to live up to anyone else's idea of success but your own. Define success by the kind of heart you have. If you are a kind person and never hurt anyone then you're a success in the most important area of life.
2007-03-19 21:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by Q.A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to concentrate more on living up to yourself rather than your family. Your family doesn't have to live your life. You do. So have fun with it. Learn what ever you want to learn and be what ever you want to be. Ask yourself why should you have to liveup to your family when their not the ones living your life? Their not running your life. They don't have to put up with the things you do. It doesn't matter what you turn out to be as long as you're happy and you have fun with it. It's your life so live it the way you want to.
2007-03-19 22:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to live up to anybody. Be yourself and do what you feel is right for you. THe only person you have to make happy is yourself no matter what you choose to do. Be happy and dont worry about something like that. You are unique in your own way. :)
2007-03-19 22:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your familys achievements, is that why you love them?
your familys achievements, are they any more happy because of them?
Do you judge others by what kind of job they have? do you judge them by how tall, rich, intelligent, or good looking they are?
if not, then don't let anyone else judge you by those standards either.
The measure of a person is not in these things but in the matters of love, joy, peace, patient, self-control, kindness, gentleness, goodness, faithfulness.
these are the qualities to live up too.
2007-03-19 22:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by Obi137 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abd what's exactly what you do? how am i supposed to tell you something that makes sense if you dont give enough information. if you are not as good as them doesnt mean you are a loser, it's just that some take more time than others to be successful in life.
2007-03-19 22:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋