cash at wedding?

Question

my fiances family is accustomed to give gifts at the wedding while my family gives cash. How can i put on the wedding invitation or RSVP card that we want cash>

Answer 1

Im not sure what the problem is with the other posters, but here in Australia its quite acceptable, as guests would much rather give you something that you wanted than another toaster that you will never use.

There are plenty of "wishing well" poems that you can find on the net that will spell out what your preference is. I wouldnt ask for cash per se, but you are well in your rights to ask for gift vouchers for stores that you want to buy goods from. examples down the bottom

Its not presumptious as everyone knows that you give gifts at weddings if invited. It doesnt matter how much you spend though.

its the same on a birthday invite if you say "no presents" isnt that presumptious in the first place that you think that people will bring gifts or people who ask for a donation to a charity for weddings.

Do as you feel and people will give what they want to give.

Answer 2

All the books I've read about putting stuff like that on the invitations say don't do it, it's tacky. I kinda agree. You shouldn't put it on the invite, that's something that needs to be spread by word of mouth. I even knew a couple that set up on of those open checking accounts at a bank where people could put money in an account under their name as wedding presents. The bank would of course record the names of everyone who contributes for your use with Thank You cards. If you put anything on the invites about gifts or money though, people will feel offended.

Answer 3

It might be taken badly if you ask for cash, however, if you register for gifts at bed bath and beyond you can return gifts for cash. At least you wouldn't be asking for it out right.

Also, our family gave presents at the bridal shower and money at the wedding so you might be getting more money than you think anyways.

Something we did at our wedding was a money dance where everyone had to pay to dance with the bride or groom. It was cute and we made a ton of money!

Answer 4

its tacky if you put on the RSVP that you want only cash. Just figure that many will give either cash or gifts. Gifts are normally helpful but most people never know what to get the couple so they give cash.

Answer 5

i agree with pixie and suzieq. if im invited to your wedding and you'd ask for money, i wont be offended. id give you money!!!! nowadays, people give money as gifts for weddings. i guess we should be open minded. it doesn't necessarily mean that when you ask for money as gifts, you're being rude, selfish or greedy or whatsoever. you gotta think that maybe this couple needs money rather than giving them this stupid rice cooker or bed sheet or flower pot or whatsoever. id rather give money so they can buy whatever they want with the money that i gave them. and besides, i dont want to waste my time on thinking of what to give them or to buy them for the wedding, its not that im lazy, its just that id rather have them think and buy stuff that they really need with the money that i gave them. and if you're only inviting family, relatives and close friends, they would understand that. but if you're inviting someone you dont know, well they'll definitely think that you're being rude, tacky, greedy, selfish, etc. well, why would you invite someone you don't even know right?

to ironman2078, i would go ahead and do whatever you want with your wedding. thats your wedding. i know everybody here would say that its tacky and rude. but hey, you are the only person who knows your family, relatives and close friends. they will understand that. check out some websites where you can find some poems - wishing well, money tree, etc. i'll do a money tree on our wedding. goodluck!

Answer 6

You can't. That is plain rude. Many people give cash and some will always buy a gift. Just make sure you register somewhere for gifts you really want. People will be happy to buy you the things you need.

Answer 7

If you really don't want them buying you gifts that you will never use I suggest your register for your wedding at a local department store. Then you can be happy with the gifts your receive, and if people choose to give you money, they give you money.

Answer 8

word it in a susinct way. these days many couples live together and aquire most of the things that they used to get at the wedding quite a while before the wedding.
asking for cash is no less polite than having a gift registry.

Answer 9

Please dont do that if you rather have the money here is a good way to get that some weddings have whats called the money tree ( where your guest clip a bill on it during the dinner) you can do that instead and let it slip out that you will be having this cute custum at your wwedding

Answer 10

Put on the invitation, 'Instead of gifts the bride and groom will have a money basket to be filled please'. Have a fancy basket placed in the reception area for people to place the money. Put also have a table ready for people who did decide to bring gifts. Don't forget to sent thankyou cards to everyone!