I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months, we love each over. He is in the Canadian Air Force and will be going overseas to Dubai this summer and then again for two more tours. He wants me to move in with him before he goes away and I would like to live with him. The only thing is I am an only child and the reality of the military life is starting to sink in - someday I will have to leave my parents behind (I am not a baby!) but I worry about them and I get really sad to think that i may not be around someday when they are older and may need me....what is something happened and I was not here - I would never forgive myself. So now I feel like I have to make a decision ASAP about whether or not to stay with my boy...should I move in? or should I end it now with a broken heart and find someone who will not leave? Does anybody have any advice on how to cope with this? I feel like I have to make a decision that will affect the rest of my life in a few days......HELP!!
2007-03-19 14:50:38 · 7 answers · asked by valleygal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you tried prayer?
if not, what about marring him, & making an agreement with him to return home after his tours are over? if he's a career boy then you may have a difficult decesion, but if he's just in for a tour then he should know your closeness w/your parents & if he loves you he should respect your loyalty, & move back when his obligation is complete.
Good Luck
2007-03-19 14:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an old guy so that changes how I will answer.
He asked you to move in , NOT to marry him .
Do you get to go overseas with him or not ?
You will need to deal with moving away from family at some time , your life may lead you to move away for jobs or your own family.
If you are young enough your parents are probably young enough that you can worry about helping them in 10-20 years , no-one can say what will happen in that time.
Personally I would not be happy for a young woman to move in with a guy who she has only been seeing for 5 months. Not when he is going to go overseas and leave her for an extended time .
If he was asking to marry you and take you with him that would be different .
sorry , old guy :)
2007-03-19 15:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the reason Yahoo! answers amuses me.
You can't honestly expect to post a life altering question here and have someone else answer it for you! It depends on how much you like this guy, and no one knows that but you. Alas, your parents may be a big part, but all parents know, their children leave someday. As long as you call once in a while, they'll be happy to hear you are happy and living your life the best way you can.
So you see, I can't answer this question. Only you can.
2007-03-19 14:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by rainthatwalks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry him. Unless you want to be a housewife with a husband who's hardly ever around. As for your parents, you can't stay with them forever. The best thing you can do it forget about the guy, go to college get a great job and follow your heart's desires. Later on, if your parents need help, you will be in a financial position to do so. Military pay is awful, trust me - I'm in the US Air Force.
2007-03-19 14:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by ninjitsumeiyo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you you are so unsure he deserves to know how you fill, The problem is if you go and thing aren't working out the way you had wanted you are going to start resenting him. If you stay and don't get it of your chest how you are filling you will have to live with the what if then there will be the I should have. Save your self the heart ache and pain. If he truly loves you he will understand what you are filling now and try to find a way to dill with it. Best of luck
2007-03-19 15:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by mystictoad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you've some themes on the topic of emotions of dependency. the courting you've defined sounds spectacular... i imagine you want to nurture it and enable it strengthen and see the position that leads you. Being area of a pair does no longer advise that you lose your freedom. the different individual 'compliments' you, enables you to be more advantageous than you're with assistance from your self. Having someone to share your life with is a need, i imagine. i don't believe of we were meant to be on my own. i don't believe of you should split with this individual... you are able to proceed to be the sturdy, independant individual you're AND nonetheless be a component of a courting... it really is accessible, you in simple terms could allow it to ensue. So 'provide' your self to him in in spite of way(s) you experience gentle, and experience free that you're with someone who loves you... regrettably, love is hard to locate in this international... do not throw it away.
2016-11-26 23:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by goettle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself this ... if you break up with him and let him leave ... are u going to regret it? your parents will ALWAYS be there for you through thick and thin no matter what and they will be there until the day they die ... u can visit them whenever u want and so on ... your boyfriend obviously loves you and cares about u alot ... and personally if i were u i wouldnt want to loose that. this is a decison u need to make and no one can make it for you. good luck!!
2007-03-19 14:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by confuzzeled88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋