My boyfriend has 2 children that are amazing. I dont have any. He is not really in their life right now because of certain circumstances beyond his control. I really miss them lots. We were starting to build a relationship before these things happened. I know their mother would not approve of me visiting them, but do you think it would be bad to go to their baseball games to show my support? What about sending birthday presents? I know that he will someday be a part of their lives again and I am hoping to still be in his.... I dont want to cross the line.
2007-03-19 14:49:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just so everyone knows....I am her boyfriend, and I need to answer this one. Listen babe, I told you when you asked me this same question a couple of weeks ago that, YES, go to Joshys games and all the other functions you can that includes Julia as well. I have no problem with it. If you stop then it will show them that you are only interested in them because of ME! I know that is not true, but in their little minds THEY don't. Reassure them through your consistancy that dad's choice for a girlfriend was not a bad one. I know that they like you a lot as well. I know their mother is opinionated and hard to deal with, but I am still their father, and I hope you will value MY opinion as well. I will continue to do everything I can to get where I need to be for all involved and then when things are going smooth again like last summer, she won't be able to be as controling and manipulative as she has been with them. She does not realize that she hurts them more than she is hurting you or I by being the way she is being because of her own resentments towards me. I'm sorry munchkin. I love you and I think you should follow your heart and your instincts. I love you . Talk to you soon.
2007-03-20 04:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Patsfan34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't make some kind of an effort, you may lose any respect and relationship you ever had with them. Their father needs to be involved also some how. My mom kept me from my dad and I didn't really know much about him until I was almost an adult. For so many years I thought he just didn't love me or care at all. Then one day the phone rings and it is him. I have to say that at first I was very resentful and not accepting of a new relationship, but I got over it and am glad I did. On the other hand, my sister's father never was in the picture, like my dad and she will not let him in her life. Just keep trying and make every effort that you can. Most of the time the little things are what is remembered.
2007-03-19 14:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk with him and her and i dont seem any harm in sending birthday cards atlest..that way its not something that is huge and shows that you are polite and care
2007-03-19 14:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by KarmicFacilitator2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is nice of you . Send them cards & maybe ask thte mom if it is ok if you go there games ect... see if you can pick up the kids for lunch , if they are lil mcdonalds works :)
2007-03-19 15:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by mommaknowsbest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋