Ok..I am in a really stuck position right now. I have a boyfriend but today one of my old crushes told me he likes me and he always had and bla bla bla. My problem? I love my boyfriend a lot, we have problems here and there ...and I really used to like this crush a lot a lot! My bf and I are kind of in an itsy bitsy fight because he says that he "cant be himself when hes with me but he has to be someone hes not." And then on the other hand i really liked this crush and its really hard for me to get over him and now he likes me!!!! what should i do! plz i need advice before i go insane lol!
Thanks!!
2007-03-19 14:31:20 · 16 answers · asked by Mrs.Blondie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your boyfriend is “acting” while being with you, and is not himself, then your relation is not going to work.
Either talk to him and convince him to relax and be who he is when he is with you, and see how things go, or just end the relation already, not just for you, but for him as well, and then you can give your “old crush” a try.
The question is, are you willing to drop your boyfriend and try something new and risk to loose it all if it doesn’t work, or you rather stay with him and try to improve the relation… Is all up to you. Just remember, if you end the relation and start a new one right away, you might end up screwing it up as you are not giving yourself some time to adapt. And your ex will be very mad when he finds out you dropped him fro another guy.
Choices… and little time… LOL… life sucks some times.
Good luck, and try to have fun no matter what you choose!
2007-03-19 14:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend a lot then the decision should be an easy one...stay with him.
Its sad your bf feels he has to someone he's not when he's around you. Did you ask him why? How does he change?
Perhaps get to the bottom of the problem with your bf.
Which one does your heart tell you to be with?
Your crush may not be as great as you think he is and then you will have given up a boyfriend who you really liked.
If you make the decision to stay with your bf then you need to put the crush out of your mind or he'll end up ruining your relationship anyway.
Don't cheat on your bf. If you decide you want to give it a go with your crush then do the decent thing and end it with your boyfriend first.
2007-03-19 14:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by Peta G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one lol but here i go. Firstly you need to really examine if there's any truth to what your current boyfriend says about not being himself when he's around you, if its true then you have a serious problem that needs working out if you plan to stay with him.As for the other guy if he truly respected you as a woman and a friend then he would not have confessed his love for you while you are in a relationship, not only does it disrespect you and your boyfriend it also shows a controlling character flaw almost as though he expects you to just dump your boyfriend and be with him. What i recommend is you examine the whole situation do you love your boyfriend if you truly do then work it out. If you feel like you don't want to be with your boyfriend anymore then play it single for a while. From my own personal experience when you jump into relationships back to back you have a really hard time being alone and having a relationship with the only person who matters most in your life and thats yourself. Anyway i hope i was able to help and feel free to contact me if you need to talk.
2007-03-19 14:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by Ricky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Insane
One Side I Must Say, That You May Be Expecting Tooooo Muchhh Of This Guy... Which You Love.,.,.,...
And Your Love BF Too Loves You, So He Fulfills Your Expectations About Him Which You Have
But At A Point Of Time He Too Needs To Be Himself And Not The Fantasy ....... Which Goes On And on.....
Know For Yourself The Root ... What Really The Matter Is .....
May Be My Comment Be Useful To You....
Sorry For Poking The NOSE... thank you..
2007-03-26 06:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is, run some tests on the ex-bf. See if he's for real or if he's just hard-up. Then you'll know for sure. THEN toil over making a decision. Right now, I don't hear an offer on the table from the ex. A GOOD offer. Let him work a little and show you he's serious.
2007-03-19 14:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same kind of situation, and in the end I regret it because I found out that no matter what, I really love my girlfriend.
Small fights are normal in a couple. You should just discuss it with your bf and see what needs to be changed.
2007-03-19 14:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by kl55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sense a big problem if your bf says he can't be himself around you. Being in a relationship should mean that you feel comfortable enough with your partner that you CAN be yourself around them. If he feels that uncomfortable around you, then I wonder why he's even dating you. In my opinion you should get over this guy and go for your crush. But that's just me. Good luck, whichever you choose!
2007-03-19 14:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one ..!! Have been by way of such a lot of hindrance in love that now we do not even attempt to resolve it ... !! As if we're kinda used to hindrance in love ..!! Basically i think that the 3rd individual are not able to resolve your love hindrance .. its you who has do it ... You and your cherished one will have got to uncover an answer , have got to speak about approximately it , have got to give an explanation for approximately it .. you have got to cheer up every different or even within the worst hindrance you have got to be there together with your love .. thats the one option to resolve the most important variety of issues ...!!
2016-09-05 08:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by faim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your boyfriend, you know you have him and if you really do love him then you will likely get over this spat. The only reason this other guy likely says he likes you is because he can't have you and you belong to someone else. In my experience guys always want what they can't have, untill they can have it
2007-03-19 14:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take 4weeks away from your BF with zero communication and do not persu the man who likes you. Instead find CODA meetings and also Al Anon. Start sharing and finding out what's really behind your choices and the men you have chosen.
2007-03-19 14:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋