We are on a tight budget and I was wondering if instead of having rsvp card that are sent back if we call tell people to rsvp by calling or emailing us. Is this tacky or not. just trying to cut cost any where we can. It is a very informal wedding outside with a really quick ceremony and a pig roast to follow. i should mention we are getting married in a field where we all camp in the summer...
2007-03-19 14:22:39 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sadly, nowadays, people often don't RSVP no matter how easy you make it for them.
I would just put all your details at the bottom of the invite (including address) and then just let them reply however they prefer.
The important thing is that they DO reply!!
I also think you are quite entitled to contact anyone that does not reply by the RSVP date and ask if they will be attending! You shouldn't feel awkward doing this as it's those people that should feel embarrassed that they were rude enough not to answer.
Remember it is YOUR Wedding Day so you just do whatever you want, and can afford. If those attending are really your friends then they will just be happy to be attending your special day.
I think your informal wedding sounds lovely and personal, ....and romantic!!!
Have a wonderful day!
2007-03-19 14:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Peta G 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that it is a tacky idea at all. I would suggest that you give two phone numbers - one for the groom's side and one for yours. It makes it easier for people who would rather RSVP to the person they know. A word of caution though: Make sure that you both have the same list and can mark off as they call.
Another suggestion would be to designate a family member to be the RSVP phone person - that way if someone chatty calls and wants to start asking you wedding questions (i.e., where are you registered? what is it that you need?, how is the planning coming along? etc...), you won't be in an uncomfortable position.
2007-03-19 23:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by nnaming2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of people just putting the RSVP card in the invite but not any postage. If your on a tight budget sending the RSVP out is always a good idea cause it's easier to keep track of RSVP cards than it is to have people emailing or calling but even then it's just as easy.
2007-03-19 15:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This actually is becoming more common. In fact there are RSVP companies that people can hire to manage their responses by telephone and the Internet. Here is a website that may give you some examples of how you can word your response card: http://www.rsvpservices.com/samples.asp.
Instead of using and RSVP company, you can designate your own telephone number and e-mail. I would give your guests options of either responding by telephone or e-mail. This way they can pick which option that is most convenient for them.
You might want to look into setting up a wedding web page with The Knot since they have an option for guests to RSVP while visiting your website (along with providing other wedding details for your guests. Registering for The Knot is free of charge: http://www.theknot.com
2007-03-19 15:49:12 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's tacky at all. I'm getting married in September in a small country church wedding and I'm not doing the RSVP cards at all. If you don't need a head count for a vendor or something, I wouldn't do it at all. If you still want a head count just change the wording on the RSVP card to say for people to call you or your mom. Good Luck! Hope it all goes well.
2007-03-19 14:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to handle this particular situation is to get some nice, yet affordable resume paper and print out a little note for your guests to please RSVP by phone or email. There are label templates that are free online through Avery or Microsoft Office that can help keep them aligned and neat. Then all you have to do is cut them out and slip it in with the invite. Sort of like a business card.
People will be more prone to forget about the phone call.....they might forget to call you back. Versus getting a little reminder in with the invite that they can post on a message board, calendar, or even on the frig.
Congratulations and good luck!
2007-03-19 14:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Connors! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I prefer rsvps that give phone number. I live in the day where the post office is rarely seen by me. I pay all bills online or phone. I send emails not letters. I have been to many weddings that left phone number for rsvp.
2007-03-19 15:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's prefectly fine to have people call or e-mail.
But people may forget so if you don't hear from them, give 'em a call and ask if they're coming :)
I wouldn't see this as tacky. In fact it's probably the better option because rsvp cards make the whole thing look real fancy and if it's not super formal you don't want guests having the wrong idea.
God Bless!
2007-03-19 14:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all...but you NEED to keep the invite list posted next to the phone because you will be saying did suzy say she was coming or wasn't coming? The reason for the cards is that they come in all different times and it gives you a concrete piece of paper to count up, tally and call the no calls (if you call someone who has already called they will be insulted). My suggestion is to use postcards (only 15 cents postage ea.) or make sure absolutely sure that you have the list near the phone and the answering machine.....
2007-03-19 15:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it's so informal, feel free to omit the RSVP cards. Since you're doing a pig roast you probably don't need a 100% accurate head count anyway.
2007-03-19 14:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋