i have 2 daughters by this guy and everytime i tell him i am pregnant he leaves me for about 3 years and comes back. we have 2 daughters Destiny and Kayla. and we love each other very much but i am so sick of his bull**** and i am pregnant again if i tell him i fear he might disapper again and i have no one to help me because my family turned agaist me for getting pregnant at 15 and i am 21 now. And have no friends .what should i do?
2007-03-19 14:17:00 · 14 answers · asked by Andrea K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
why arent u using protection? If he leaves.. than he doesnt care.. stand on ur own two feet and figure how to do it urself.. hmmmmmmm.. what do I do if he was never here? stand on ur own two feet. You can do it.. Do it for ur kids..
2007-03-19 14:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
P L A N N E D P A R E N T H O O D - they can give you cheap birth control pills
C O N D O M S - better than nothing
A B S T I N E N C E - wisest idea for someone who is 21 and has two children and one on the way.
2007-03-19 14:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest your biggest problem is your self esteem. If you tell him that you are pregnant and he leaves then let him but don't take him back. You are showing your girls that a man only loves you if he's in and out of your life. Do you want your children to repeat your mistakes? Stand up to him. Go to school make something of yourself so you can support you and your soon to be 3 children without his help. As long as you take him back everytime he's gonna walk all over you. He's going to keep treating you like he does because he knows your not going to do anything about it. And go to court get custody of your children. Quit playing his game because that's all it is to him...a game and all he may see you as is an easy piece of a**. He may love you but he has no respect for you.
2007-03-19 14:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't avoid telling him you are pregnant because he will soon know! You have no choice.
If you love each other then I can't see why he would take off again! If he does take off after you tell him then perhaps he doesn't love you as much as you hope he does.
If he is going to run then there is probably little you can do to stop him.
Explain to him that you need him to stay and take responsibility for his family if he loves you and his daughters.
It's too late now but perhaps, in future, you need to make the joint decision to have another child and not allow yourself to get pregnant against his wishes. Three children is a large responsibilty and he obviously fears responsibility.
2007-03-19 14:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Peta G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, why aren't you using protection? And if this guy did this in the first place, you should've dumped him. This man is NOT helping you and you need to step up your game and tell him what's right. He's taking advantage of your body. And doing this he doesn't want to take the responsibily of not using protection. That is why he disappears. Tell him your pregenant and then dump him. It's the right thing to do so you and your next child don't live a hard life.
2007-03-19 14:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would try to stop having unprotected sex with this guy. Does he support the children? Is he a good father? These are questions that you need to ask yourself BEFORE you let him crawl between the sheets with you. I know that you love him but by the way he is acting he doesn't have much respect for you. I would tell him and then introduce him to your lawyer, because you are going to need financial help with 3 children.
2007-03-19 14:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop depending on a man to make things better. You have to do it on your own. He doesnt sound responsible at all. And you should be using protection. Why keep bringing kids into the world with a man who disappears whenever he feels like it. Get a job two jobs if you need to and take care of your children,,,forget about him. You have to be strong on your own two feet. NEVER DEPEND ON ANOTHER PERSON TO GET YOU THROUGH LIFE.
2007-03-19 14:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life is about choices, and you have made your choices. I wish you luck, but your problems are profound and nothing short of religious salvation will solve what you have to look forward to in the next 20 years.
2007-03-19 14:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did the most idiotic thing you could have done for your relationship, a baby is always a blessing but you knew he would leave, your kids need 2 parents, 3 kids at 21, i was 23 but we had our own home and a marraige, get sterilized, you are doing this for attention and to trap him. but it backfired, din't it?
2007-03-19 14:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if he leaves you just because ur pregant he anit worth nothing. im sorry to say that, but if you where only 15 the frist time maybe he was just scared. and now that you all are older maybe things will be differnet this time. and if its not.. you dont need him. plus your gonna have to tell him anyways.. you cant hide it. so its best just go ahead and do it and get it over with. good luck.
2007-03-19 14:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by Stacey22 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you don't need anymore drama. Get rid of him you can do this on your own you have do it before. That way when Mr. Wonderful comes along you won't miss him because you are with Mr. Butthead.
2007-03-19 15:51:44 · answer #11 · answered by blondieT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋