My bf says i cheated on him first thats why he slepted with my sister. He says that i cheated him when i called my mother and other sister for advise about what i should do because my bf would always tell my about his big fat ex-wife(H) and how he was digusited by her fat so he had to go find someone(CJ) fatter than his wife just so he could have sex with her at night. He kepted on telling me this story over and over i thought he was directing it towards me and my family because i used to be overweight and some of my family are overweight. He says i cheated him first i guess i did by not telling him that he was offending me what do you think?
2007-03-19 14:10:33 · 14 answers · asked by TNT9478 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you didn't cheat on him. Don't listen to what your boyfriend says, okay? You did not cheat on him unless you got with another person while you were with him. Not telling him he was offending you is not cheating. He cheated on you and he's trying to make himself feel better about his mistake by making you feel guilty about something you didn't do and making you feel bad about the way you used to look. If he's says messed up things about his ex or you, he's probably a weak guy because he needs to make others seem bad so that he won't feel so bad about the person that he is.I hope I didn't offend you, but I just thought I should say what I thought and have found to be true in the past.
Good Luck!
2007-03-19 14:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bit confusing? If he found he ex-wife was so disgustingly fat then why find someone fatter to sleep with?? Doesn't really make sense. You bf sounds cruel.
There is no excuse to justify sleeping with your sister.
Don't try to make excuses for what he has done...he cheated on you BIG TIME with your own sister...that's not a forgiveable offence!!!
He just sounds like a heartless person, and I would certainly be dumping him pronto!!!!!
2007-03-19 14:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by Peta G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a total jerk. You're well rid of him. No, talking to your family about him is totally not cheating, unless it's idle gossip. You have a right to ask for advice. Hey you didn't even talk to another guy about it! How could that possibly be cheating?
Get rid of him, and find someone who appreciates you for yourself. He's a jerk, and you're worth more than that.
2007-03-19 14:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by skunkytruck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that asking for advice is cheating. This guy sounds kind of iffy. I mean, if he found out you were asking questions on Yahoo answers would he think you were cheating? This is nothing compared to cheating. You need to ask yourself: do I really deserve this?
2007-03-19 14:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by oms 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relies upon what you like out of the relationship? Are you waiting for the subsequent breakdown? Are you waiting for the subsequent around of him having to handle his subjects? My Father grow to be bi-polar with schizophrenia (clinically determined). each and every thing had to be planed around his existence and how he grow to be "affected" by utilising issues. blend that with a sociopath mom with narcissistic tenancies (clinically determined) and nicely you got your self a dysfunctional kinfolk. If he's somebody that does nicely with recurring and you adult men can stay a existence with minimum surprises he ought to be ok. you ought to circulate with your boyfriend to a doctor and get him clinically determined and on a treatment plan to help together with his united statesand downs. i do no longer think of you could extremely classify him as cheating. He grow to be in a mindframe the place he grow to be dropping it, attempting to locate some equilibrium and a woman took great factor approximately him. on the different hand if he's mendacity with regard to the entire ingredient and did cheat and now's crying each and every 2d attempting to "restoration" it you have an abusive difficulty coming up. (Google abusive difficulty - rigidity builds, abuse, guilt, honeymoon section). EDIT: despite you do, do no longer consistently forgive him for his trespasses and grow to be the proverbial doormat. at last he will understand a thank you to play you with guilt and get his way (trouble-loose in bi-polar people). you could't exchange him, in no way will and he will in no way be "commonplace". the main you're able to do is help him, love him and get him on a treatment plan that works for him and your loved ones. in no way assume and in no way sell your self short or you would be the single that loses in the top.
2016-10-02 10:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by bizier 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did was not cheating. What he did was and your sister needs a slap in the face too. Both are losers.
2007-03-19 14:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's full of BS. Only cheating (kissing/sleeping with/etc... ) is cheating. Not sins of omission. Is he nuts? You didn't cheat, he did. He's a bum for telling you such a stupid thing.
2007-03-19 14:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he did have sex with your sister it didn't mean anything it was just a place to stick it . you should be mad at your sister how could she do that to you
2007-03-19 14:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by joe n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok that's not cheating. sleeping with ur sister is unacceptable. Get outta there!! Now!!
2007-03-19 14:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Future Mrs. Beuerlein 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um by the sound of it you never cheated on him...
2007-03-19 14:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by becca . 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋