we are both stressed as hubby is in hosptal and has been for months he is due for major surgery on weds i know its hard on her having her son in hospital and as ill he is . but she came up here to mine and was stressing and carrying on in front of the kids the kids have enough on knowing their dad is ill without her carrying on so i asked her nicely to lower it and calm down to which she stormed out of the house yelling i had no idea what its like to have a son ill i calmly pointed out that it was my husband and the kids dad too and that we should all be there for each other to which she told me to f off and live her life for a day?! i now have the kids upset as to why grans upset on top of what they've to deal with already
2007-03-19 14:08:36 · 7 answers · asked by kj 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, as you were calm I would leave her to it - she'll grow up and get over it! I don't think I would be running around panicking and trying to appease her - let her get on with it, be a bit tougher. You can't bow to her drama antics all you life! It may be her son, but its your HUSBAND, your LIFE, and she needs to realise that! The kids will get over it once they see you are coping.
She being a b itch and a drama queen, 'cos you are more important than her and she doesn't want to accept it. Leave her to her silliness. and tell her no thanks - you life is a million times better, so why on earth would you want to swap?!
2007-03-19 14:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she loves her son dearly. Maybe there is something other than that bothering her, maybe she is dwelling on it very deeply when she is on her own. She might feel that you are concentrating all your attention on your children (quite rightly) and she may be looking for some reassurances from you. Because she is older doesn't mean she is stronger. Why don't you just apologise and ask her if there is anything else bothering her. Try to make her feel loved. I know its the last thing you need right now. Good luck. I hope your husband makes a good recovery
2007-03-20 04:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by Scotty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine telling you to F OFF and here was me thinking a M.I.L would be a nice gentle old lady. You are all upset at the moment
and once hubby is back home everything will return to normal. Good Luck
2007-03-19 21:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least explain to the kids that gran is just stressed and taking it out on youall, and probably doesn't mean it. Then maybe make cookies or something with the kids' help, and take it to her to smooth things over in a couple days. Set a selfless example for your kids!
2007-03-19 21:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by skunkytruck 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's not your job to apologize to your kids for their grandmothers behavior. it is understandable that she would be upset ovet the situation, she has to put herself in your shoes and walk a mile. apparently she is very concerned for her son's wellbeing, but it affects you more directly than it does her. as for the children. put it into terms that they will understand. 'grandma is sad and concerned about daddy being sick. make the best of your situation and dont dwell on your mother-in-law's reaction. focus on yourself and the kids well being only time will fix things, good luck :o)
2007-03-19 21:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by mexirican_chula_2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen,my dad died yesterday,and were having this prob with his sister,she thinks shes the only one suffering.Shes lost both parents,and because myself and 2 siblings and of course my mum are getting attention,she cant handle it.ok its her brother but its my dad and my mums husband and yet she wants it to be all about here,we dont need that **** and neither do you,speak up,cos we did
2007-03-19 21:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by lees 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a selfish old hag, obviously she has no thought for her son or she wouldnt be treating his wife and kids in this manner
i truly hope your husband gets better soon xxx
2007-03-19 21:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by laneyb_1983 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋