My husband has next week off from his business because it is spring break in my city. He's been working really hard and we don't get to do many fun things during his busy time. I was hoping we could take a couple days and do things we enjoy together.
One of his employees is 15, without a car, and will be spending spring break at home by himself because his siblings are all older and go off to do their own thing. My husband offered to let him spend spring break here and play video games non stop with my husband for a fun week.
I felt totally irritated that this kid will be staying with us and I get to cook and clean up after one more person, plus, our living room will be taken over by loud video games- no TV for me.
I'm trying to accept the fact that we are doing something nice for this kid but it totally gets on my nerves. I wanted to spend the break lounging around in my underwear and doing fun things with my husband. GRRRR!!!
2007-03-19 13:50:41 · 8 answers · asked by Erin H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Going out with my friends really isn't an option because we have a toddler and if my husband is busy playing games and hanging out- he can't tend to her. I don't want to make this more difficult. I feel like I should just suck it up and shut up.
2007-03-19 13:52:30 · update #1
You're not being selfish. I agree with you. Your husband shouldn't have done that. I think you should leave your daughter with a baby sitter and then chill with your friends and your spring break can be fun without your husband.
2007-03-19 14:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely not tolerate that AT ALL. I'm a Teacher, and I bust my butt all day long, come home tired as a dog--and there is NO WAY I would use my vacation to have some extra person I dont know in my home. If I were you I would set my husband straight and say no way.
To be honest, the first thing that popped in my head is that your husband may be bisexual or gay. You're probably laughing at that idea--but think of this: what kind of grown man would want a 15 year old teenage boy in his house, spending the night during his vacation?? That doesnt sound right at all. I wasnt born yesterday, and I dont think you were either. Make sure you get up to see whats going on if you heavy breathing at 3 am in the next room.
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I'm adding extra stuff, because I thought of this question agian..Unless this 15 year old boy lives in a homeless shelter, I just cant understand why your husband would want him in your home during his entire vacation--spending the night. One day hanging out is cool, but what 15 year old wants to spend the night at his bosses house???.
15 is not 8 years old, and I'm sure he has friends his own age--and he has parents too, right?. Look, any 15 year old kid would just about kill to have the house to themsleves, so why would he want to spend spring break with your husband, a wife, and small kids--- when he could have his own home to himself? Unless your husband is a Minister or youth Pastor--and this is some kid on drugs or in "trouble" and in need of "intervention"--I dont understand why your husband wants to spend his vacation with him spending the night--instead of seeing his wife walk around in her underwear. I dont know--I'm a Teacher, and 15 year olds are sexually mature and physically developed "young adults", not "little kids". Britney Spears was 15 when she did the video "hit me baby one more time"--did she look like some sweet Mousketeer that you would let spend the night at your house with your husband because she was "lonely"?\ What the hell is going on with your husband?
2007-03-19 21:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and help the kid out. You and your husband will give this young man a very pleasant memory to hold onto and you need to understand that good memories are treasures that can last for a lifetime. Also, speak with your husband privately and tell him since he planned the family vacation this time you will plan it next time. That's called "compromise" and it's a great thing between husbands and wives.
Also, don't be too upset about all this because it sounds like you have a very kind and compassionate husband. Consider that a most incredible blessing from the hand of God.
2007-03-19 21:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be sooo P*ssed !!! but then maybe you could take advantage of this kid crashing on your couch. A free babysitter when the toddler falls to sleep. Then you and hubby can have maybe a couple of nites out of the week for a nice night on the town. I mean it is crappy situation but may as well make the best of it. May want to talk to him about talkin to you about big decisions like that.
The kid can clean his own mess he is a teenager now
2007-03-19 21:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by ppetss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not selfish........every couple needs time together and him having the week off sounds like it would have been perfect timing........but on the other hand...it's a good thing he is doing by looking out for this kid..........I'd lay down some ground rules to husband tho..........you are not spending the week cooking and cleaning........one idea could be to have him take saturday and sunday and help you cook....freeze meals so they just have to be thawed and popped in the oven.......
and make sure to take time for you........your husband is also the dad...he can take a couple hours out of his video game schedule to watch your child while you go get pampered....nails done etc........and maybe ..if you feel secure enough to leave this kid home alone in your home....go out for a nice dinner one night
2007-03-19 21:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by mystic_whispers_of_my_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As payment for staying at your house, make the kid babysit while you and your husband go out a few times during the week.
You need to have a serious talk with your husband about priorities, respect, and thoughtfulness.
Good luck to you. I'd be livid if it were me.
2007-03-19 21:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by mykidsrsaints 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could all go to the beach or to a park. Get them out of the house and do something fun. Also you can still do "fun" things with your husband just wait untill everyone falls asleep and go ahead and do it in your bedroom !!
2007-03-19 20:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by Wphs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost he should have told you before he made a decision. Or even discussed it with you. Why is it that they make the decision and we are stuck with it. He should have talked to you about it found out what you felt and then made a decision. Ok at this point you cannot say anything but sit down and discuss your boundries on anything that you feel will cause havoc in your life or his and make it clear to him that these are your boundries. One of them is that he has to talk to you before he makes a decision
2007-03-19 21:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋