why does my mother hate me?

Question

I am in my teens and i have an on and off relationship with my mother.The other night we got in this fight and i'm not sure if i could talk to my mom about personal problems anymore. I'm not even sure if i could tell her that i love her anymore.I really do love her, its just that i'm afraid that she won't believe me and won't forgive me. :(

Answer 1

I have a similar situation my mother and i have a more off then on situation im 24 now and as much as i would love to talk to her and get her opinion about my personal problems i feel she wont believe me or care i have just learned to deal with the fact that my mother is NOT a good mother and i try and find the nurturing and the love from other places, that is harder for a teen to do for sure. I hope that you have a close brother or sister or aunt or uncle or good friend (be careful there though) that you could talk about your mom and other stuff you need to vent about and if worse comes to worse speak with a guidance councillor or see about a mentor.
A mentor can be very helpful, they are an outside person that doesn't know you or your family they dont preach about what you should be doing or give you crap about what your not (to an extent depending on what your doing) and they listen too and you can do fun stuff on them its great

Good luck i really hope you and your mom can work it out if you love her tell her maybe she's not feeling very loved either, that's a viscous cycle to

Answer 2

Been there. I stopped telling my mother my personal worries at age 13. I told her something very important to me, and listened to a 30 minute nag speech about what a terrible person I was and I probably deserved everything that is happening to me. After that, I talked about the weather only.

She never changed her anger toward me. I grew up, got married, moved away, and years later she died in a nursing home. I never saw her again after I got married. She wrote a few times, only to tell me more hate and anger toward me.

No easy answers for this one. Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm a mother and I can't even imagine a mother hating her child! You are probably overreacting. A mother wants the best for her child and life often dishes out something quite different. My daughter is married to a wonderful man 2 years her senior. I thank God ever day. I might be a basket case if she hadn't made such a wise choice. Please believe your mother has your best interests at heart and take your future seriously. Most important talk to her - COMMUNICATE!!!

Answer 4

Teens and Mom's fight. That's part of growing up. Just because you fight doesn't mean that your Mom doesn't love you anymore or want to talk to you about your personal problems. Talk to her. Tell her that you love her. Don't shut her out....you need her as much as she needs you!

Answer 5

Sometimes you just can't speak to your parents about certain issues, even when they act like you can talk to them about anything. Parent's can be very judgemental, but I believe it's because they truly love you and care about you. They only want the best for you and sometimes their opinons may came off as harsh.
On the other hand, if your mother is just calling you names and treating you like crap for no apparent reason then it would be healthy of you to distance yourself from her. You need positive people around you that are you going to build you up instead of degrading you.

Answer 6

Hun she is your mom she will always forgive you. And I am sure that she knows that you love her. Sometimes we clash the most with the ones that we love the most. Just talk openly with your mom and tell her what you told us. I am sure that they two of you can work it out. Good luck

Answer 7

of course a mother will forgive you.
what on earth are you talking about?
sometimes my mom tells me " i have no feelings for you , get out of my life, leave this place." those are very strong words that struct me. i stayed in my rooms crying for hours until my mom came in and told me " honey, i love you . and im sorry" sometimes when i leave somewhere and she goes somewhere shell leave me a note saying sorry.
but if you look in the bottom and deeply in your and your moms heart you will see love

Answer 8

i've gone thorught diz, juss last week.
when we fight thought, i dont talk to her
but whne we finally did [n i was in my room,
cryion ma azz off] we talked, n it made me realize
dat wen diz happpens, talkin helps, no matter wut.
one thing for sure, momz always forget. and if u
tell em dat u luv her, shell belive you, even if its not tru!

Answer 9

i know this sounds dumb but my mom tells me this and im just starting to believe it. your parents and God will be the only ones who love you unconditionally all other love is conditional.

Answer 10

i think Mother is the most beautiful creation of God!
Go ahead.... say her sorry....she'll hug you!