My boy friend and I have been together for a few monthes now, and I am seriously in love with him. The problem is before we bacame a couple we were friends, and I thought that it would be enough for us to become a stronger couple, however he doesn't trust me as far as he can throw me.
He questions my every move and my every word. He wants me to give up some friend, one in which I have slept with, we no longer mess around on that level and he has become one of my closest friends, but my boyfriend doesn't like it. So I gave my friend up... (because poeple on this answer thing have advised him that he wasn't wrong in having me choose)now it seems like one thing after another with him. He doesn't like this or doesn't trust that... when is enough simply enough?? when does he have to give me some kind of trust?
I also trust him more then any thing. He is always around girls, some that I know for a fact that want him. He goes out when ever he wants and I never say a thing. Is this fair?
2007-03-19 13:21:47 · 7 answers · asked by latinalove172003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have nothing without trust, it is the number 1 most important part of a relationship!
2007-03-19 13:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by patweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, look inside yourself -- does he have a reason not to trust you? If the answer is no, then maybe sit down with him and talk about how you think you are being treated unfairly if you haven't done anything in your relationship to result in trust issues. Point out that you gave up a friend for him, and that should result in some trust gained. Ask him what it will take for him to start trusting you more. Obviously something is going on in his head that is making him not have a lot of trust in you, that's stuff you need to discuss and get out in the open. Maybe he just has a history of broken trust and it's going to take some time for him to gain trust in anyone. Because of a previous relationship of mine, I know I will never be able to fully trust someone for quite some time.
2007-03-19 13:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by hj325 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have never had to choose between friend and him, thats not groovey. He is a jealous person, that means something. Normally if a person is overly jealous and not trusting you it means that they are doing what they are watching you for. Secondarily he may just be a jealous person. Where does it end... with you locked in a house with the only people you see him and family? This is of course an extreme, but you get the point
2007-03-19 13:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dez Myr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you said that you told him that you slept with this friend warning bells went off in my head. Whenever in a relationship do not give information that is not wanted cause obviously you gave him this info and now he has an insecurity about it. Do not divulge info for a new relationship.
2007-03-19 13:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a communication problem talk about it, my daughter in law had many realtionships and didnt trust my son, but he is so honest and faithful, she realizes it now, but it took some time. talking is the best thing for a relationship.
2007-03-19 13:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you young lady are in a messed up situation...and i have a strange feeling...he is so jealous cause he is either sleepin with someone else...or is thinking about it...
i got no advice for you though...i cant tell you wetgher to break up with him or not...just dont be nieve...investigate!
2007-03-19 13:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop asking the internet to run your life you moron. honestly would you walk up to a stranger in the street and ask them to make decisions for you?????
but no your boyfriend is a muppet.
2007-03-19 13:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by George Foreman Grills 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋