When I go to this baby group with my daughter all the ,moms talk about is when they will have to go back to work. They do not look at their kids or demonstrate affection. What is wrong with moms today, are they just more stressed? When my mom went to things like this ladies would have coffee together and support one another... teach each other to sew or cook...I know these days are gone but why can;t people be more friendly and warm?
2007-03-19 13:12:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Most women feel the pressure to be 'ubermoms'. She Cooks! She Cleans! She Brings Home Bacon! She Chauffeurs! She's Perfectly Made Up 24/7! She's Fashionable! She's Creative! She's Sexy! She's.... you get the idea.
There's such a divide between someone who 'contributes' and someone who 'provides' that a lot of women feel like they're settling for less when they decide to quit working and raise kids (this is also why in Japan, fewer women are having children than ever before and the government is actually PAYING women to have multiple kids).
When you add societal pressure to the pressure most mothers already put on themselves, it's no wonder that many women are unhappy with the role. That unhappiness can color everything--including how they view other mothers, making them negative and judgemental.
2007-03-19 13:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by shoujomaniac101 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think a lot of it has to do with the fact that the role of "mom's" has changed over the years. when i was young,very few mom's worked outside the home. now, both parents have to work,most of the time,just to make ends meet. it's exhausting,to say the least. it used to be that all mom's had to talk about was home and family. now, with the way our world is, there is more on their minds than ever before. it's a shame that more mom's can't relax and enjoy their kids while they have a chance but i think they're sometimes so caught up in the stress of everyday life, they forget what's right in front of them. that goes for overworked dad's too. i don't want anyone to think that i'm picking on working mom's.(or dad's) far from it. i don't know how they do it. it isn't easy..
2007-03-19 15:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At my moms group we do complain. It's hard being a mom and we need to vent and know that other woman go through the same things as us. It's good to know that other moms doubt themselves at times, that they get fed up at times, and sometimes think that they aren't cut out for this. But we also talk about our favorite thing about parenting, and how great it is to witness our kids blossoming. Maybe you should look for a new group, because it shouldn't be social hour. It should be centered around the kids and supporting each other.
2007-03-19 14:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by pchiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of moms today are so wrapped up in doing what they want to do that they forget they are moms. A lot of them are stressed out living it up instead of being moms. I see more and more young people trying to distance themselves from their children so that they can go to dances, pool halls, friends houses, riding the strips, just going going going all the time and without their kids. Oh they are friendly alright but in the wrong kind of ways. I wish that more parents today knew what they were doing to their children by neglecting the fact that they have children. They want children but in name only..not responsibility. Thank God there are those that do care.
2007-03-19 13:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by freedomrings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not so much unhappy, but tired...kids dont let you get any sleep nowadays...
2007-03-19 13:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never noticed this, to be honest.
2007-03-19 13:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋