I just met this guy, and he's nice. Cool to hang out with, and we did hang out yesterday. He told me he likes me and I like him, too, but I think I'm purposefully trying to push him away cuz I was deceived recently by another guy whom I thought liked me and had good intentions. The guy I met has been constantly telling me he likes me, so I wanna believe him. And then I think to myself that maybe I'm scared of the feelings I'm starting to have for him. I'm just wondering if my thoughts are justified....
2007-03-19 13:03:42 · 15 answers · asked by Licia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are perfectly right to be wary..but you must let this guy know you have been badly hurt in the past and you want to take things slowly ............or he will not understand what is going on.
2007-03-26 23:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has this new guy given you any reason to doubt him? If not then you are probably just trying to protect yourself from being hurt. Unfortunately, there is no sure thing. You can't be sure that you won't be hurt by him, but if you don't ever give him a chance, you could miss out on a really great guy. Not all men are jerks. Good luck.
2007-03-27 16:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Terri Klapperich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's actually natural for you to feel this way. Just sit down with yourself and ask yourself if your ready. If your a bit hesitant maybe you need a little more time. Just let the guy know that you might not be ready and that you do like him. Don't jump into a relationship if your not sure of your own feelings. Until you feel confident i would just hang out with him.
2007-03-27 20:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by chewie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to wear a little emotional armor if you've been hurt before, but don't let the previous jerk ruin the thing you have going now. Can you talk to this guy and tell him that you're interested in him, but you've been hurt recently and want to be very sure about your feelings before you get more involved? If he's the right one and want to be with you he will give you the space that you need.
2007-03-27 18:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lorrie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you will have to figure out on your own. I just found out my girl was cheating on me for the last 7 months and now I am having the same problem. You have to take your time and not mess up a good thing. I don't know about you but when I first found out, I went out of my way to find a girl that I could take advantage of and hurt. Before things went too far I realised what I was doing and left, but be careful.
2007-03-19 20:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Dez Myr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's ok to be scared...you're just feeling that way because of your previous experience. However, do not let that bad experience dictate this new possible relation. He likes you and you like him, enjoy what there is between the two of you. Too many women carry previous baggage into their new relationships and end up ruining a good thing...please don't do that, you will regret it. If this new guy doesn't work out, then he wasn't the one. Love yourself, take care of yourself, and go for what you want. Don't allow men to damage your outlook on love. Goodluck! =)
2007-03-19 20:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's there to be afraid of? He's not going to propose to you tommorow. Chill out and date him a while. Then you will know if he is lying or not. Don't get intimate though, that is why a guy will butter you up so soon, to get in your pants. Keep your pants on and if he likes you really he will stick around.
2007-03-27 19:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by franny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they are justified whenever someone hurts you, you keep it in the back of your mind, and wonder will it happen again. But you have to remember all guys are not alike so give this new guy a chance.
2007-03-19 20:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by HoneyBrisk 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give it a try just learn from your previous mistake. Don't give your all to this relationship right away. That was the reason why you got hurt so bad.
2007-03-27 20:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by Batman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell in the beginning. I think you just need to take it easy, go with the flow and give yourself time to figure out what you want. If he tries to rush things and doesn't listen to you when you slow down, he just isn't right for you. Don't do anything you don't want to and you will be fine. :) Good luck!
2007-03-19 20:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by Kerosa S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋