okay so i met this guy on my cruise, we had a thing and liked eachother a lot and after the cruise he contacted me and we talked a few times but then things died down a bit cause we live far away from eachother. about 2 months after the cruise i went to surprise visit him. he was really happy, and acted the same exact way as he did on the cruise. i was only there for about 20 minutes cause i had to go somewhere else. he contacted me after the visit and then things died down once again. 4 months after that in february, me and my friend contacted him because we happen to be going to college by where he lives in a few months and we were auditioning for dance. he said, of course, come hang out with us. we went there and hung out and once again, he acted the same exact way. he explained to me how me visiting the first time he was really happy but it was like giving him a puppy and then taking it away from him. he kept asking the question "can i keep it..is it mine?"..which was really cute. me and him talked for about an hour alone about everything. i left and he told me to text him when i got back to the hotel. he asked if i was mad at him for not talking to me all the time. i said no, and he said he can tell i was. but i wasnt, not at all. he texted me that night saying "thanks for coming cant wait to see u again." we spoke for awhile about the night and how we had fun and later on i said "goodnight have fun"..and he said "im going to sleep..all my fun left already." that night he commented me on myspace saying he had fun and he hopes to hear from me soon. two nights later he texts me again saying hey and we talked for awhile. i asked him to come to ny to see me, but he feels weird cause he doesnt know anyone and he feels as if everyone will "like him..then hate him" he said he would think about it, and i even said "we can go to the city." he told me "way rather see you then the city"..meaning it doesnt matter what we do, as long as i can see you..which was really cute. he then sent a couple of funny videos and one night his friends called me from his phone. i heard them say something about girlfriend in the background and he laughed and got on the phone and kept apologizing for calling so late..he told me he was really sorry and hed call me the next day. he was drunk when he called the last time, so he probably forgot the entire night because he didnt call the next day, and now we havent really been speaking..
does he like me a lot but finds it hard to talk to me because we live so far away from eachother and he doesnt want our relationship to develop anymore..and hed rather wait until im there to do it the right way?
2007-03-19 12:58:58 · 10 answers · asked by lindsay m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
meep...thats really repetitive.....i think that the thing about the g/f in the background and the laugh is a clue, he might already have a g/f and maybe he just needed someone different to hang out with or something. i think that someone like him maybe isnt worth your time. but then again, i really have no say in this because i havent and dont have a b/f....no experience! so you dont have to take my word for it. =) i hope it turns out for the best though
2007-03-19 13:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by aznboardergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well you said you saw him a few times I think that if he really liked you he would travel for you and not just sit down and let you do all the traveling.He may just be one of those guys who arent into commitment.But heres what I hope you consider doing wait for at least a week and see if he calls you if he does then dont answer it if he call a couple days later pick it up and talk to him,about the situation, If he doesnt call you then call back after the week is over and try to talk to him about the situation if you really do like this guy then You should be able to tell him wat you are feeling.Oh, and if he said that you were mad and you really werent then maybe you should get 2 know him a little better over the phone after the week test.DonT get in TOO Deep and get upset because if he isnt the one for you,Because then he is not worth your tears.and I kno this may sound weird But be careful You dont who is out there these days.. and third PRAY ABOUT IT God always gives you a answer as long as you listen.Now it may sound Like im giving you advice as if you were a baby But Just be Careful some guys arent that great as they seem to be but u never know what will happen in the future he just might be a great guy.
2007-03-19 20:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would drop it to be honest. You don't know him well enough to put all these risks up and also....realistically, if it was a friend of yours going through the SAME thing..what would you say? You would prob tell her to drop him and not get involved. Also...why are you making yourself so accessible? If he wants to see you - he can come to see you as well. Shouldn't always be you going to him. If you had a guy that stuck around no matter how you acted or whatsoever and it's a new thing with a guy you don't know that well....why would you put in all the extra effort if they're going to do it all the time?
My advice: Don't make yourself so accessible...be a challenge. Stop calling him and let him call you.. if he really wants to talk to you or pursue something...he will...but you need to let him. If he doesn't...well...that's your answer.
2007-03-19 20:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by kristina807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not that into you, a guy who is really really into you will not care what he has to do to see you because to him, you're worth it. Plus, he hasn't officially even asked you out yet, you've been doing all the work and I think a guy who likes you alot would put much more effort in than just sending you a few more texts every day.
2007-03-19 20:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by LuvUrGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can this poor fellow get a word in edgewise???? Or have you forgotten how to make complete sentences that end in periods???? When we meet people on vacation and cruises and such they become "romances"....and most all the time they aren't designed to be more than what they are: a fling. Move on and find someone that lives nearby and doesn't have a drinking problem.
2007-03-19 20:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by JennyP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u really like this guy call him or just somehow bump in to him somewhere talk to him and see if he wants to go to movie and dinner and talk to about u and him see if he really likes u without having to ask him i hope i helped u and sometime if u need advice im here
2007-03-19 20:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by abcemilyxyz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was really long. Wait until you can see him regularly. That will help you iron out the kinks and see if you have something worth keeping.
2007-03-19 20:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by lance4uok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my god how much more would you of written of you could? idc
2007-03-19 20:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your self do you think so?
2007-03-19 20:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by Eve H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u = booty - the call
2007-03-19 20:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by .K. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋