Why am I so scared?

Question

Sometimes i get really scared the guy I like doesn't like me anymore, even though its a werid thought because he is so sweet.. he has told me he likes me and less than a week ago we were hanging out and he was kissing and cuddling me and stuff and most times when i see him in the hallways he hugs me.. i haven't had a lot of relationships in the past, but the ones i have had miserably failed. nothing i did, i don't think.. the first one lasted a week cuz the guy decided he just wanted to be friends.. and the second one happened like 4 times for about 2 days each because the guy was being a jerk and going back and forth between me and this other girl.. so when i found out i stopped giving him chances. do you think i'm scared because of these past relationships? or could there be something really wrong with my self esteem? and sometimes when i see my crush in the halls i get scared and pretend not to see him or go another way.. even though i had looked forward to seeing him all day?

i do all this completely impulsively without even thinking.. any tips to help me cut this crap out? its starting to scare me that im worried so often.. somehting's wrong.

Answer 1

The best thing you can do is keep in good communication with him and continue to let him know your fond feelings for him and your desire to continue to see him. But I'm afraid that your intensity might scare him off, and I suspect that you think so, too, which is why you're avoiding casual contacts with him. I'm guessing that you're both quite young, and if you get too intense you can easily scare off poor kid who's not used to having a hungry female in pursuit.

Do whatever you can to keep it light and thus extend your relationship over a longer term. Be sure to maintain your own friends and interests and passions, and expect him to do the same. As you get to know each other, you may discover that you have more in common than your raging hormones, and that's a good basis for a long relationship and true love.

In the meantime, just have fun being a kid. There is always an ample supply of young men for someone with your sort of spirit and passion.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong on you, I think that's normal getting scared when your see your crush on the hall or any places. It's good if you going to establish friendship with him first so that you will know what kind of guy he is, and don't show up your feelings with him and just be nice, you know getting into relationship has also difficulties but being always cautious is important, know him better. That's why our head is on top of our heart so that we can control our feelings.

Answer 3

Well, "Brits 91"; After wading through your so-called problem, and then waiting for my eyes to stop hurting afterwards, I can say that the two most important words in the whole screed were, "impulsively," and "crap." Think about it. Then do your homework and go to bed! I promise you the world will still be here in the morning.

Answer 4

The simple answer is it's an issue of trust. You need to learn to trust him and you need to learn to trust yourself, that you are capable and worthy of a good relationship. How you convince yourself of this is really up to you. It's pretty cliche, I know, but try not to stress out about this too much. Everyone goes through this at some point.

Answer 5

Oh.. I'm sorry, you're in a tight situation. I think your boyfriend has his work cut out for him... your past relationships are effecting the ones you have now. Your current boyfriend has to prove he'll always be there for you, before you stop avoiding him.

Answer 6

Sounds like you're afraid that this relationship is going to end up like the others. Even though it will be hard, if you want to be with this guy, you're eventually going to have to let down your guard and trust him. You'll have to have faith in this guy or you may push him away.

Answer 7

if he really cares, he wont do u the same as those other jerks