I met this girl at Jujitsu months and months ago and soon fell in love with her, we started dating and soon after she came out and said she didnt want to be anymore than friends with me. OK, so wheres my problem you ask?
Well my problem is this, its haunting me, when I saw her the day after she came clean we had a huge row. Now 4 months later she has a new boyfriend, we don't talk and I am a sorry wreck, I can't sleep at night because of her, I am scared to go into town in case I run into her, I have given up jujitsu because of her, anything to try and get her out my life but still it haunts me, my few friends at college think I am just being stupid and need to pull myself together, start dating again. But how? I feel unattractive, low confidence and no girls want anything to do with me and even if they were I am really scared of rejection/being dumped now. What do i do?
2007-03-19 12:30:33 · 8 answers · asked by crazytoad11 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Plenty more fish in the sea.
You'll get over her - time is a great healer.
Move on, but take your time and develop a more meaningful relationship with the next girl or the one after her even.
2007-03-19 12:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by Modern Major General 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know,if you like a person so much and get rejected,it feels as we will never be able to live without that person,it will never happen if that person likes you back.Maybe if you were to be with her a little more,you would had got tired of her,it happens sometimes.Right now you just got a shield for other girls,get rid of that shield,so you can be happy again,she's not the only one.Just try,you'll see,Good Luck!
2007-03-19 19:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by genie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she freaked, and backed out. This is all on her, not on you. You didn't mention details of how the relationship was, but if it was super-intense and then poof! out like a candle...it was just one of those flash-in-the-pan kinda relationships.
Let her go...ease your mind and realize there is way more to life than just focusing on this incident. Go back to jujitsu, maybe another studio in your town if you want to avoid her. Get on with your life. If need be, seek counseling in dealing with this! Good luck!
2007-03-19 19:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. This is all in your head. Who were you before you met this girl? Rewind and go back to being the person you once were.
People are either going to accept you or reject you. That's just how it goes. Now collect your thoughts and get back in the race.
2007-03-19 19:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
snap out of it and get back into dating. just because a girl doesn't want to be more than friends with you doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, she just didn't feel YOU were her perfect match. you shouldn't take it personally, you should just be thankful that you didn't waste 10 years of marriage to her to realize that there might be someone better out there for you, you just haven't met her yet. but you will know her for sure when you do....you'll be3 able to compare this person to no other!
2007-03-19 19:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something for yourself. Have fun, treat yourself to something. You just need to let go of it, and breath. You will run into these kinds of things many times in your life. You just need to deal with it. Treat yourself to something to get your spirits up, and then go walk out your door and into the world!!
2007-03-19 19:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by StuffitTuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SIMPLE!! wish her good luck and move on!
Get yourself out there and find someone who really wants you!
2007-03-19 19:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ray354 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out with your friends. you'll be fine.
2007-03-19 19:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋