My girlfriend has just demanded that I spank her on our next date. Hitting women is against all my beliefs. I suppose she's trying to spice things up as we have become a bit bored of each other lately. But hitting women is against all I was bought up with and all I believe in. What if I hurt her? I'd never forgive myself. HELP!
2007-03-19 12:30:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TALK TO HER!!!
This is quite a normal preference, particularly if as you say things are going a little stale between you recently.
She obviously cares & wants it to work with you rather than just thinking "I'm bored I'm outa here".
If you'd feel better with it arrange for you to have a "safe word". This is something she says that says "enough's enough". It could be anything, calling you by your name, just saying "stop now" or anything else you'd both be able to recognise that you arrange before you start anything.
But if she's "demanding" that you spank her she WANTS you to hurt her!
Please rememeber that comfort & enjoyment need to go both ways. If you're not comfortable doing something then DON'T DO IT!! Cos you won't enjoy yourself & then it won't be any fun for either of you if your hearts not in it.
If she's into being dominated but you'd be uncomfortable with striking your woman try something else to dominate her, like tying her up, or blindfold so you can tease her with the anticipation of what you MIGHT do next. But, again, whatever you do HAVE FUN, cos these days that's what it's all about.
2007-03-19 14:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nothing to be shocked about, Charles. Plenty of girls enjoy being spanked, even spanked hard, and find it a big turn-on. And bear in mind this may be something she's fantasised about for years, and that coming right out and asking for it probably took her a lot of courage. So even if you really can't bring yourself to do it, don't make her feel she's somehow 'weird' or 'sick' for suggesting it.
As for hurting her - well yes, that's what she wants. If you just use your hand, there's no way that smacking her bottom can do her any serious damage, no matter how hard you spank. Pain and pleasure are often intermixed, and she evidently enjoys being hurt in this one particular way.
Try starting out by smacking her quite lightly - across your knee on her bare bottom is the best way - and gradually spank harder, pausing often to rub and stroke her bottom. If she's enjoying it, you'll know clearly enough from her body language. Give her a safeword - a nonsense word like 'bananas' works best - that she can say if it's really getting too much for her. You may well find it's turning you on too - and that really is nothing to feel guilty about.
2007-03-19 22:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear I would not feel bad if she is asking you to spank her. You could have a secret word that she could use if you get too rough for her liking and if she uses it you stop immediately. This way you will not hurt her. You are not going to be punching her violently - this would be unacceptable but spanking can be rather a turn on so why not give it a try.
2007-03-19 12:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Loobyloo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
explain to her that you wouldn't normally do anything like this, but you are willing to try just this once. start very softly and see how you feel, sometimes people can use props to help them so they don't feel like they are actually spanking to hard.
Don't be scared of trying something new, but also you must feel comfortable with what you do, so if you don't enjoy it once you've tried it tell her!!!!
2007-03-19 12:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by squeegy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is asking to be spanked, not elbowed in the face! NO, you don't hit them as hard has you can. Just enough so they can feel it. Maybe, you shouldn't be doing anything, if you don't know this already!
2007-03-19 12:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to her about it if you've got concerns - don't do anything you don't feel comfortable about but at the same time you need to consider her needs in the relationship.
this is a completely different thing than domestic violence so don't be worried if you do do it and enjoy it - make sure she has a way of telling you to stop if she wants you to and remember that she's actually the one in control of it all (if you do decide to give it a try).
best wishes x
2007-03-19 12:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by aria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's not your thing, but perhaps you could spank her very gently with a slipper? Or let her give you a slap on the buttocks
2007-03-20 06:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain how u feel to her but spanking isnt about getting hurt as such and beating the hell outa her its about pleasure may be worth a try if thats what she wants and yr willing to try it once if then u dont like fair doo's
2007-03-19 12:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by kj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 18:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it.
Exlain your concerns and fears,how uncomfortable you feel about the situation.
Have you thought that maybe the spanking sugestion might be a factfinding mission.
What I mean is,is she trying to fish for information about what would turn you on?
2007-03-19 12:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋