I am a 37-year-old divorced single mother. I have been seeing a guy for over four months. We spent a lot of time knowing about each other. He is a really nice guy, loving, caring, supportive, honest, romantic, generous. He is very good to me, and my family. He thinks I am everything that he is looking for in a woman. And he expresses his love to me all the time with all means including sending flowers to my work multiple times. He is really good. And he said he is sure about us and our future together. But... I am not excited about him and our future. I don't feel the click, and the extreme joy of loving someone. I never really missed him when we don't see each other. ( BTW, he is not ugly or somthing. He is a good looking guy, and has decent job :-) Is there something wrong with me? I have dated a few other people and had a couple of prior unsuccessful relationships. I do want to find someone to settle down, and don't have to look further. But, IS HE THE ONE FOR ME?
2007-03-19 12:19:57 · 8 answers · asked by Greg J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you aren't ready. Give it a little more time.
2007-03-19 12:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been divorced. It may be too soon. When you divorce it is as if your marriage "died" you need to be able to grieve. Your lack of interest might be your emotions just telling you need more time. Be honest and upfront with this man, whatever you decide, he deserves that. No matter what the issue, I suggest talking with him . Maybe you just need to spice it up a bit.
2007-03-19 12:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by anne_33_11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably have problems in the future. You need to date a little bit longer. You have to make a test to see if he will overcome it. If you don't feel the love, what is the point in getting with him? Take your time Susan... Everything will come naturally.
2007-03-19 12:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Depressed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was the one for you, you would not have to ask this question. You will know in your heart if they are the right one for you. He may be a great guy but there may be something that just is not there, and you can not force it to be there. No worries. Hopefully you at least gain a great friend out of this all, right?
2007-03-19 12:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by misfit1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd Advise you to relax and not ponder if he is the one for you, but I know it is something that everyone worries about. So, wat I can tell you is: Just be patient. Take the relationship slowly, you will find out how much the love increases or decreases as u both get to know each other more. Things usually seem sweet at certain beginings but end up aweful. Please take things gently and slowly. You will find out if he is really the one.
2007-03-19 12:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lila86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel the click after 4 months, then cut him loose. He deserves a woman who is excited about him. He's not for you. Let him find someone who adores him.
2007-03-19 12:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i have to say is if you really like this guy and think he is mr. right then you go for him babe..... but if at sometimes you feel he isn't the one for you then i wouldn't try it... i mean you have already divorced once babe and if u get married and then just decide he isn't perfect then you are gonna have to go threw the same thing but if you really like him and have nothing bad to say about him the go for it girl!
2007-03-19 12:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is hard. I think u should think throloughly about this and stick it out, if you still don't think he is right then do what's in ur heart
2007-03-19 12:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by alexihorky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋