Ok, 3 weeks ago my girlfriend accuses me of not caring about her or her two boys! That was b.s.! I paid majority of the bills and for groceries! Well yesterday her youngest gets hurt bad with head trauma! This happens around 3 pm and I dont recieve a call until 8 pm. And NOT from her, from her mother! I call her this morning to let me know what the dr's say and she says "Ok" Well for 4 hrs. nothing! I call back at noon, her MOTHER answers, the hospital sent her boy home! No call, no nothing! And I'M THE ONE WHO DOESNT CARE? Might I add I tried calling her at least 20 times!!! I'm lost and dont know what to think here?! I've done everything for her and these kids and she cant even call me to let me know her boy is hurt?!!
2007-03-19 12:12:13 · 12 answers · asked by barbell405 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well, why did she break-up with her ex? maybe she is scared of being hurt. talk to her and let her know you really care for her and the boys.
2007-03-19 12:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by nelly78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may-be she accused you wrongly to let you know there is a problem in the relationship
not the right way to do it granted but ok
now as to why she didnt call you
1 she was with her hurt son he is the important person there
2 she didnt feel you would care
3 you should have just showed up at the hospital
the only thing i can say here is go sit down with her tell her how you feel listen to how she feels and work it out
2007-03-19 16:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point blank, tell her that unless she allows you equal footing in the parenting department, you're going to stop being her sugar daddy. Tell her how frantic you were when you found out about her son's injury, and how hurt you were that you were kept out of the loop when you make such considerable contributions to the child's livelihood. After that, stop paying her bills and buying her groceries.
Yes, it's not fair. It's not nice. It's calculatedly cruel to imply that you'll starve her children if she doesn't treat you as an equal in the family. But if you're putting in equal contribution, then you should get equal consideration and you aren't. It's time to step up and stop being a doormat.
2007-03-19 12:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by shoujomaniac101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have a woman with the case of "poor pitiful me" things aren't going to get any better if they are already down this road. But if you want to try- you should tell her that you want to do things with her children such as coach one of their sport teams, take them fishing, fun things. Paying the bills and providing for them is a good way of showing you care. But to her - she may be grateful and appreciate these things. But women think more about the emotions and quality time put into relationships with their children. So try doing something to spend quality time with them - without her. And tell them all the time how much you care for them. For starters- buy him a get well present and take it over there. Sit with him while he opens it. If you do care for these boys like you say you do - then you would apply yourself to them in this way. Hopes this helps.
2007-03-19 12:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might not have wanted to leave his side or she may have been really worried and not thinking clearly. she was in mom mode.paying the bills does not = care and concern. i think you do care it just may not be getting threw to her . you need to reassess your actions to the kids. extra hugs and be there as soon as you get home to help with what ever they need. she is going off her intuition maybe not facts
2007-03-19 12:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she should be more concerned for her OWN kids, rather than whether or not she thinks if you care. You didn't mention anything about the REAL father. Where was he in all of this? Maybe she should be telling him this instead of you.
2007-03-19 12:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are in for a rough road with this one. I might consider getting out of this before it's to late.
2007-03-20 07:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by bluekitty1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very inconsiderate, but like mom says...Always respect wome...so lets not call her any names...But I think you are right on this one...although this is just your side of the story, maybe you did something to upset her...Im just sayin...or maybe its that time of the month...
2007-03-19 12:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she want you to show that you care for them when she wants to see it.. any other time your forgotten about.. i can understand her not calling when it happen her main concern was her child.. but when he was sent home them she should have thought to call you
2007-03-19 12:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very selfish, you should really talk to her about this.
2007-03-19 12:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋