I met this great guy last September and we grew close. Despite some recent problems (that I already asked about), he still wants to meet me and I want to meet him. He's in the military and said I can stay at the inn on base. If he visits, I told him I can pay for a hotel. He seems very real and trustworthy...so should I meet him? Should I visit or should I let him visit? If we meet, do you think us spending the night together is a good thing (no sex but maybe making out a little)... =) ? Opinions and advice please!
2007-03-19 12:02:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've met people from online, not in a dating situation but just to meet. However, that was always in a group; several people from a certain forum getting together for a meeting. We always met at a public place, in a bar or cafe, we didn't exchange addresses and such, or go off anywhere one-on-one.
If you are meeting one-on-one, don't give him your home address, meet in a public place, let people know where you'll be even though it is public, possibly take a friend along for the first meeting.
About spending the night with him, sheez, I couldn't say... going to any place less public with someone you've only just met is *always* a bit risky regardless of whether you've met online or in a bar or out in the street or the mall or anywhere... use your judgement and don't decide until after you've talked with him for a while. If possible tell someone about it when you do (if you don't want to make him feel bad for not trusting him, make up an excuse for calling your parents or friend, say you forgot something, say you thought you'd be home earlier and should call letting someone know you'll be out a bit later, something like that).
2007-03-19 12:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Beyaelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering about the "problem" that obviously concerned you enough to mention it. I wouldn't travel to see someone who is offering to pay for a hotel room. If he's paying for it I'm sure he's going to expect something in return. I would definitely tell someone that you're going to meet him, when your coming back and how long you'll be gone.
Also I wouldn't meet him for the first time at the hotel room. I would meet him in a neutral location to ensure that he's not two kinds of crazy. It's better to be totally safe than sorry. If it's meant to be then it will all fall into place. I wouldn't make out with him either, I mean you are just meeting him for the first time! I would save it for the next trip.
2007-03-19 12:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my GF on line but we spoke for months before actually meeting in person and when we did we met in public first. Everyone on line is nice but you still have to be careful. NO spending the night together sex or no sex. I would go with a friend or stay somewhere he doesn't know on the base so if he turns out "weird" he will not know where you are staying. Even if you meet him alone let people know where you will be, let them have a number to call you and be careful.
2007-03-19 12:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by chazzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is NEVER safe to meet anyone from online. You don't know who the person is. DO NOT get a hotel room together, you are setting yourself up for a major disaster that can only result in you being raped, kidnapped or murdered. It's all a part of his plan to seem trustworthy, but you won't know the truth until it's too late. PLEASE do not meet him, you're making a grave mistake.
2007-03-19 12:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet at a public place, sleep in different rooms, keep your car keys and pepper spray in your hand!
I met a few people from online, and never had any problems, however I never suggested a hotel either. It could be dangerous and you are playing with fire.
Meeting in a shopping center (Mall) or resturant is a pretty good idea. Okay? Keep safe!
2007-03-19 12:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him in a public place & make sure friends or family know where you're going to be. As far as spending the night, that's up to you. I'd see how things go meeting him & always have an "out plan" if things don't go well.
2007-03-19 12:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do decide to meet him, tell people where you are going, give them details of your plans so they know where to contact you if needed.
I believe it would be ok on the basis that I think that someone that may be out to hurt you wouldn't put in as much time as you two have been talking.
Also you need to not get yourself into a position where you feel uncomfortable, not a secluded area, or a room alone if you feel anxious...trust your gut girl.
2007-03-19 12:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't spend the night alone with him until you get to know him a little better but if you two seem to like each other I would definately go for it only for your first few dates I would recommend public places just to be on the safe side
2007-03-19 12:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by napoleansck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if you never met the guy. you fully trust this guy even though you never met him. if you want to go meet him take a friend with you. get to no the guy before you sleep with him who knows he may be just lookin for a 1 night stand. there are so many people that meet people on the net and they wnide up getting raped or something like that. be careful
2007-03-19 12:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful, i have done the same thing, and we are to meet in a month. i got a hotel and he got a hotel so if things dont work out then we have a place to go and we made it in a central location between the two. we both meet halfway also in case it doesnt work, and if it does then we can stay in one room
it is safe only if you play it safe!!
good luck and be cautious :)
2007-03-19 12:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by nonyerbusiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋