Well..thats not exactly true. You see, my housemate is one of my closest friends and i love living with her. She gives me plenty of space etc and i can trust her. We often hang out in my room together to watch tv or dvds (as im the only one with a dvd player) and thats fine. But lately i've been coming home unexpectely for lunch etc, when usually i let her know im coming home, and ive found her in my room watching tv and dvds and riding my exercise bike. I've closed the door but obviously that doesnt stop her. Its harmless, but i dont feel respected, when im there its no probs at all but on the weekend when i was away i know she was in there and its just a funny feeling, i feel invaded and like i cant escape! she had a dvd player on her lap top so theres really no excuse, and the exercise bike is a loan and if it gets broken, i'll be to blame. what do u suggest?
2007-03-19 11:55:13 · 14 answers · asked by KissesnKuddles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just be straight up with her. tell her that you dont think that she'd do anything to your stuff on purpose, but you dont like people being in your room when you're not around. Or you should request that she ask to use your stuff beforehand. Would it be ok if she called you or sent you a txt message and asked if she could watch a dvd in your room?
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2007-03-19 12:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by PR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would offer to move the DVD player into a common room, so if she wants to use it, she can, with out being in your space. as for the exercise bike, maybe if you start hanging clothes on it, and make it a chore for her to use it, that might stop her. Like hang wet stuff that can't go in the dryer on the handles. If that doesn't work, try asking her to not go into your room when you are not there. Not going into someones room when they are not there, or only with their permission is invading their space, and slightly disrespectful.
2007-03-19 12:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by radio_flyer_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, but gentle. Don't let little things like this bubble up for too long... because she doesn't know that anything is wrong! Just let her know that you feel a little weird about her going into your bedroom when you aren't home. Is there a common area that you could put the television in for both of you to enjoy? I can understand the bike situation, because that isn't yours... and if she is a real friend... she should understand that too. Just be nice and non-confrontational about it, and it should go fine.
2007-03-19 11:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by dougandkate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her nicely, explain to her exactly what you just explained to the whole world. She will respect you more if you are up front with her.
In no way do you need to do it in a nasty manner, invite her to dinner and let her know that it really bothers you that she is not respecting your space when she goes into your room without permission and to do it while you are at work and she is not expecting you home is wrong.
I would also let her know that going into your room without permission=mission is considered sneaking and that is a good way for her to cause you to not trust her,
2007-03-19 12:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 18:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ciao Bella.
another house w/no rules......kinda late now for the rules w/out streching the friendship...rules shoulda been in place from start...another lesson to learn
2007-03-19 12:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her know its ok to use your stuff when your around.....but when your not you'd rather her not be in your room...its simple if shes your friend she'll respect your privacy.
2007-03-19 12:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a lock on your door.
2007-03-19 12:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus tell her not to use your things or go to your room when ur not around its no biggie
2007-03-19 11:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by sickskillz883 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask that she doesn't use your things unless she checks with you first.
2007-03-19 11:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by xskeptictankx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋