What do you think when you observe parents defending their kid(s) who has been negative in the community?

Answer 1

Agggghhhhh. My ex neighbors have a BRAT who is the worst kid I have ever met. In the first week that they lived here their angel tried (and almost did) to stab my son in the eye with a little play sword, pushed him down the front steps and pushed him out a window. They explained it as him acting out bc they had just got back together and moved to a new place. But a year later, he was worse--he broke my sons toys, threw fits, beat on my walls, hit me, and would sh*t in his pants when he didn't get his way. Not only was he not punished for anything, they said it was bc he was "tired". He did the same things at home, and would smear sh*t on the walls, and of course it was never his fault. He's 5 and and goes to the same school as my son, but they're in different pre-k classes. (thank God) When his parents would defend him, I would sigh and walk off while they were still talking. My husband told the father the reason his kids are like that is bc they're undisiplined, which is true. They think they're protecting them now, but in a few years, when he does something really horrible--like kill someone--what are they going to say? He was tired? It's really not fair to the kids (although I don't feel sorry for them) bc they get used to doing no wrong, and then when the real world comes along, and they're facing prison, they don't understand why. Kids like that have no sense of right and wrong, and they believe they are invincible. Too bad when they find out they're not.

Answer 2

I am a mother of 3, My oldest is almost 21 years old, the other two are 10 and 8.

My theory is that my kids have to face the music. regardless. I am gonna probably get into trouble again but that's OK.

I don't have a problem with some one else correcting my child if I am not there to do it. I think that is a lot of the problem with kids today every one is scared to nail some one Else's kids. mom and dad will get mad at me.

There is no perfect kid all kids mess up and I pray to God that some one cares enough to walk up to mine and tell them put down the cigarette now or bottle of beer or cussing or being disrespectful or mean. people who throw fits and make excuses for there child are only teaching them that it is OK to go ahead and do what ever they want to and no body better say a word to you about it they will pay.

And if my kid was breaking the law well I hope to God some one calls the cops the first time so that they will learn that being a kid doesn't give them an excuse to act stupid.

Answer 3

I think that if these parents forced themselves to question the blind trust they held in their children, they would then have to question the role they (the parents) played in making the child turn out that way. There's a trend in this country (the US) to vilify the parents for the child's actions, no matter how old that child is or how heinous the crime. Sometimes kids just go bad. But these days, if a parent does take responsibility, they find themselves as persecuted as the child who committed the crime--even if they themselves are completely blameless. There's a double standard in this country that almost forces parents to blindly believe that their children are innocent because if they don't, the social consequences can be equivalent to shunning.

Answer 4

I think it's a natural parental reaction to protect our kids but I also think it's insane some of the things these kids get away with and the parents do nothing about it but take their side. I had woman come to my door last summer telling me that she caught my daughter "ding-dong ditching" and proceeded to verbally thrash my child. Now, I confronted my daughter and she told me the story, all in front of this woman. I knew the girl my daughter was hanging out with (bad seed) and knew my daughter would have done nothing if she hadn't been encouraged so I punished my daughter and had the woman go and confront the other girls parents as well. My daughter is no angel and is not perfect and parents who are THAT blind are the same ones that probably think spanking is abuse.

Answer 5

Parents these days think children are a nusances.Many times the children just want a little time and attention from mom and dad.They would be bad just to get their parents to notice them.Some parents always scream and yell instead of teaching right from wrong.They are not aware of what their children are causing problems.It is good to want to defend your children but sometimes we must look at both sides.Sorry so long winded.

Answer 6

I think parents should defend their child(ren) but, I think parents should also realize that children are children and they are going to do things that we have not raised them to do. As well as the things that we have raised them to do. As parents all we can do is support them and try to raise them to the best of our ablilty. While remembering that they are children and don't ever think that they could never make a mistake or doing anything that they were taught not to do.

Answer 7

I think it's natural parenting instinct to defend your children, but to the extent that the child can do no wrong, that's annoying and uncalled for. Sadly, most parents seem to be like that now. Their parents always make excuses for them and they grow up never learning how to take responsibility for their own actions.

Answer 8

I think that they are selfish. They are making it so that they are the only ones who want to be around that child. If you don't teach your children the correct way to behave socially, then you leave them at the mercy of strangers and strangers wont be kind. They don't have to be, they don't love them. It's just like a parent who doesn't encourage a child to say hello when being introduced. I had a friend who did this when she introduced me to her son. She claimed he was shy, but I thought it was just rude, and socially inappropriate.

Answer 9

It reminds me of how much our society has changed and how sad it is to see the lack of respect kids have these days!! You would think that parents would do everything in their power to change whats happening!! I am a parent and I make it a point to my kids that they will have morals, values, respect even if the rest of the world doesnt!!

Answer 10

I think that they are viewing their child as perfect, as if he or she could do no wrong. That kind of parent needs to understand that it's not always someone else's kid who did something wrong. It is also quite possible that that kind of parent is one who would do the exact same thing in that situation. That kind of parent needs to grow up before he or she can teach their child to grow up.