My dad says I hit his car when I really didnt. The side of his door is dented and he found some paint where it was chiped from my car. (long time ago accident I had) he used that and said I did it. So now im sitting here crying. and he keeps saying just tell me you did it. im like "FINE I DID IT" does that make you happy? its his company car and they will fix it...so i dont see why hes so mad when i didnt do it!!!...hes like i dont believe you. he did the same thing about my grades when i told him I have all A's and B's...then he found out by my teachers that i was telling the trough...what SHOULD I DOOO!?!?!?!?!... he was also saying that he was going to tell mom if i didnt tell him that i did it.
2007-03-19 11:45:22 · 16 answers · asked by Faith C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you didn't do it, keep telling him you didn't do it. You shouldn't lie to make him shut up. Tell him he probably did it, even though he won't admit it. Tell your mom.
2007-03-19 11:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I sounds like your dad has some anger issues!!!! However I know its hard when your so mad and upset. You could walk out (altho I wouldnt suggest it). However I think you should if he doesnt know already, how the paint from your car got onto his. After that explain to him that you are an adult (or obviously close) and if you tell him that you didnt do it he should respect your answer, as you've given him no reason not to. Explain to him that your sorry he's upset that SOMEONE hit his car however it wasnt you. On the subject of your grades, approach him sometime when he's not already upset, and ask him, dont patronize or egg him on, simply ask him, if there is a reason he doesnt belive what you tell him? Is there a reason you've given him not to trust you (and remember you asked, dont get upset by his answer). Ask him if there is a way you can work through your problems with out yelling at each other, because it obviously makes you upset.
Well thats the long and short of it, hope I helped.
-Waffles
2007-03-19 11:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by woofywaffles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your dad may have some mental issues. Take a step back and ask yourself: when things go wrong, does he ever accept responsibility for them? Or when things are wrong or bad, is it always (in his eyes) someone else's fault?
If you find that the answer to this is "Yes, he always blames other people for his troubles," then your dad might just have narcissistic personality disorder or some other mental issue.
It took me a long time to realize that my dad had mental issues and then to further understand how they shaped the way he behaved and treated people. This is a webpage that gives some information about mental health issues:
http://www.nami.org/
You can find information on personality disorders there.
If your dad does indeed have mental issues, then what you need to understand is that he cannot change the way he behaves, and that when he attacks you, it is the mental illness speaking and acting.
People don't like to believe that someone they love and care about, who should love and care about them, but statistically speaking something on the order of 10% of all people have mental illness issues at some time in their lives. If someone is behaving irrationally-- and your dad's behavior qualifies-- the chances are very good that there is a mental problem.
2007-03-19 12:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Karin C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you tell him the time you did hit his car? Did he find out by accident or did you come right out and tell him you hit his company car?
More then likely this is going to come out of his pay check, or you never told him before so he is taking the past as a example.....
If the company will just fix it why is it still damaged from the time you admittingly hit it?.....did you have to pay for the time you did hit it....
Parents are just parents....
2007-03-19 11:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honest i a dad an if i got mad every time our kid did something to the car are truck, i be in a hosp,lol,,, but kid going to do thing, an some time, they dont mean to, it just happen,,,i see it this way, my kids are worth more to me than a car dent, are all the money in the world,,,sould like he just want to lay the blame off on some one else,,, which is wrong,,,,,i wish i could tell you he change, but sweety,, , i dont think he will,,, so all i can give is a big hugs to you an hope you feel better soon
2007-03-20 02:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for things to calm down then ask your dad if you can talk like 2 adults. Let him know that you really did not hit his car but you did back awhile ago. let him know,calmly, that he has doubted you before and that when he talked to your teachers, indeed what you told him was true. Don't get defensive or loud cuz it closes him down just like his accusations closed you down. After you've settled it with Dad, go to Mom and tell her that you feel like your dad holds it over your head that he's going to run to her and you feel like it breaks down the bond you have with both of them.
2007-03-19 12:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by Rae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and write him a letter. How old are you? Have you lied to him in the past? Or maybe he did something like this when he was younger so expects you to act the same way. (Maybe he's acting like his parents used to act) It's time to nip this in the bud!
2007-03-19 11:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT lie. If you didn't do it, do not say that you did. Stand your ground, this is a matter of personal integrity. I know it hurts your feelings, but you must be true to yourself first. If he wants to tell Mom, so be it. Your story is still true, you didn't do it.
2007-03-19 12:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grab a baseball bat and tell him to follow you outside, you will show him what his car will look like if you hit it.
2007-03-19 12:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ~ maybe you guys all need some family counseling ?
I know sometimes I doubt my daughters.. And feel hella guilty after.
2007-03-19 11:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by Julie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋