I miss my Dad's side of the family and they will see me only because they think my mom forced my out of the religion which is not true at all...but im still very angry with them for shunning my mom out after she was nothing but loving and still does love them very much...she just couldn't live without her family who was not in the relgion. She had no choice but to take me and my brother away from the religion...not from family just the relgion...which im greatful for..but I don't know what to do should i try see them agian?
2007-03-19 11:42:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
For the benefit of those persons who do not understand the shunning tactics that Jehovah's Witnesses employ against those who do not accept their beliefs, let me tell you, from first-hand experience, that amandapage's mom is now considered to be an apostate and so her husband will be told to have nothing to do with her. That's how loving and Christian JW's are.
It's all very well writing a letter to your dad asking to see him, but you would have to pretend that you still believe in their religion and that would mean betraying your mom, who must be suffering dreadfully. It would also further expose you to their preaching. May I suggest you take this up in prayer with God? He knows your pain and understands. Put your trust in him. Support you mom every way you can, she needs your love more than ever.
Please do not be intimidated by the pressure being exerted upon you by some persons who blame you and show no sympathy whatsoever. I am referring specifically to JW's who have responded to a similar question earlier on this week - I am not having a go at any individual who has answered this question. I will be praying for you and your mom.
2007-03-20 07:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
First off NO ONE has to leave their family just because they have no interest in being Witnesses.
If you wish to see your father's family then you should tell them so. It is then up to them. If you do want to be around them, you should be Polite and Honest. Honest enough to admit how you feel about the idea of being a Witness.
But polite enough to not be rude or nasty. Remember just as it is your decision to not be a Witness it is their's to be Witnesses. You want respect for your feelings so show respect for theirs.
Try to avoid uncomfortable subjects, especially at first. Leave accusations at the door. If you are deciding to be around them, then you will need to recognise you are being around them as who they are.
The comment by Princess was hilariously innaccurate. Regardless of how the mother has acted and is viewed NO ONE would judge the daughter by it, nor would they only let her around them if she pretends to be a Witness.
2007-03-20 02:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ish Var Lan Salinger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of the JW's. They will force you not to see your family if they feel there is something bad that happened back there that hasn't been punished.
If she walked out of the religion, she is to be shunned and anyone else. You can try, but the chances of getting through are not that great.
2007-03-21 23:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi: I agree with Pepsioli. She gave an excellent answer.
2007-03-19 18:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by charlie kee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write them a letter telling them you love them and want to see them.
2007-03-19 18:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by pepsiolic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~ amandapagepanda... my appologyies. I have a daughter who is being 'overtaken' by another religion... because they are poor... and the only church in the area that 'latches on' to the needy, then takes them for all they can give... their children's minds.
~ I still love my daughter and her children... my grand children... I pray for her... I minister to her as often as I can... I share my points of view... But, I have to distance myself when it comes to helping them in their church projects...
~ Had your parents been equally yoked, you would not be experienceing these problems, but, that's a point you need to think about when you are old enough to be on your own... when you decide to get married.
~ It appears that you have a good command of the English language, which means you are about to graduate or are in college...
If so, you need to be in Prayer for both Mom and Dad... Your mom is doing the proper thing... but it IS difficult for her, not having the support from her husband... the one with whom she and he made a commitment ... a vow... to the Lord God All Mighty.
Dad's heart and mind are tied to his religion... which is not Christian based, and is the reason mom left him... to protect you... Praise God. Keep dad in prayer... than he would come to know the True Living God... Jesus Christ of Nazareth.
~ You may not get to see dad... or his side of the JW family again...
~ Prepare yourself in the upcoming battle... learn the JW cult... where to show their differences with those of the Christian beliefs... the Holy Bible. Have your Pastor give you training in this area... be competent... do street witnessing and learn with a team from your church... then you'll be more comfortable sharing with your detached family.
~ If you ARE able to see them again... be humble, forgiving... set religion aside - BUT NOT DOWN... if they try to discuss religion, let them know you have your own beliefs, and would rather just enjoy their company while visiting. If that fails, go ahead... stand firm in your beliefs... share the gospel message with them.
~ May the Lord Jesus bless amandapagepanda in the battle that her Mom and siblings are under...against the Jehova's Witnesses... their father/husband and relatives. Thank you Jesus... minister to them... soften their hardened hearts... lift the veil of darkness from their eyes... remove the plugs from their ears, that they may hear the true gospel of Jesus Christ... that it is NOT about works, but about love... forgiveness. Thank You, Jesus for the work You are doing in our lives and in the lives of my father and his side of the family to come to know you. In the name of Jesus Christ we pray, Amen. Glory.
2007-03-19 19:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by James N 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
What part of "come out from among them" did you not get?
http://www.godshew.org/ShewBread2.htm#inthem
To say you miss "them" is to say you still desire "their" law;
And to still desire their law is also to still desire "their end".
Pst - the end of such Life(Grace) + Death(Law) is DEATH.
"Beginning" 1: "Fear" hath this end: "torment"...Law
"Beginning" 2: "Sorrows" has this end: "grief"...Law
"Grace" has neither of such "law law" beginnings nor ends.
More Excellent: neither broadmindead nor narrowmindead.
A conscience not purged of sin is as dead as they are.
There is no loneliness in Graceful Merciful Peaceful.
There is no dis-comfort in "the God of all comfort".
http://www.godshew.org/GodShew2.htm#Allness
The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.
2007-03-19 19:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
You don't say how old you are.
2007-03-19 18:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋