Is dating just legal prostitution?

Question

Are these statements correct?

Find me a wealthy man with an unattractive wife. Or find me an attractive woman with a poor, unattractive man.

Every woman is a prostitute to some extent. No attractive woman is going to date a bum. They're going to date the guy with the Bentley.

Take an attractive woman on a date, if you don't have money to spend on her for dinner or drinks.....consider it your last date

Damn near every woman I've dated has weighed at least 200 lbs. Don't judge me.

Answer 1

All good and very valid points.

Answer 2

Feeling a wee bit cynical today?

I read your question (the first bit) and got a good chuckle... but man...the statements... you are killing me! Finding the person you want to walk through life with is not about being the sexiest thing around, having the thickest pocketbook, or showing off material wealth. People who show the behaviour you listed above are one of the reasons the divorce rate is so high. How about:

Show me a person that understands the way my mind works, and maybe I've found someone I could love... OR...
Show me someone that makes my temperature rise, (and maybe, after I've figured out if he has any substance) we'll have the best sex life going.... OR...
Show me someone who takes the time to figure out that I like the things that money really can't buy... and I'll show you a man I could fall in love with.

Is superficial attractiveness all that you find appealing in a woman? Cause, sweetheart... big boobs sag, tight bottoms rarely survive pregnancy, and a person who only wants you for what you can give them in the financial department is a waste of time (and money, I might add).

Hope your tomorrow is better. You'll find her...

Answer 3

It sounds like you are very disillusioned and angry.

There are many relationships out there that have their basis in friendship - not money. In other words, the guy and the girl got together because they liked each other as friends, and that sparked mutual attraction.

Attractive women aren't going to date bums. But given a choice, we aren't all going to date the guy with the Bentley either. You know why? Because the guy with the Bentley has money, and therefore has power, and therefore is more likely to be entitled and order us around and expect to get his way all the time and not know how to compromise.

Yes, some women just want to be taken care of through financial security. But other women want a REAL partnership with a man that knows how to compromise and with whom they can build dreams TOGETHER. We don't want bums, we want someone that can work hard and pull their own weight.

I think you need to understand that not all women divide men into two categories: rich guys vs. "bums." Maybe we divide them into three categories: rich, "bums" and those that are just right for us. Why don't you try seeing women as potential friends instead of just dates? Your expectations define your experiences - e.g. through self-fulfilling prophecies. If you really think dating is just legal prostitution, then that's all you're going to get.

Answer 4

"Every woman is a prostitute to some extent?" I'm taking it you've had some bad experiences lately.

You could turn each of those things around. Find me an unattractive woman with an attractive man? Heck, find me an attractive woman in her 40s with an attractive man her own age. Wealthy woman + unattractive man? Where?

"No attractive woman is going to date a bum." Why should she? If by "bum" you mean someone who is a slacker without ambition, what's supposed to attract her to him? I've known plenty of attractive, successful women who date men who aren't as successful, but who have a lot to recommend them (good temperament, intelligence, humor). These guys also have plans - they're going somewhere. Not always somewhere lucrative, but somewhere meaningful and interesting.

There are women, and men, who only evaluate relationships based on dollar signs. The rest want mates who share some of their interests, have compatible views on life and relationships, and are passionate about something, because people who are interested in things are interesting. They want to feel liked, listened to, appreciated.

Maybe you should ask yourself why you go after the women you go after -- are you choosing a date based almost solely on looks, or are you talking to her, getting to know her, and THEN asking her out because you have things in common and she seems interested in you, and you in her?

If you're basing your choices on looks, then you're no less shallow than the women who anger you.

Answer 5

Don't you know anything about morals? Why do you think there are so many divorces today? Too many people are shallow and marry for money or looks. Real love is so much deeper than that, but takes alot of commitment and work. Think of all the friends you know who have grown up without two parents in the home. What a differnce it would be if people put in the extra effort and realized dating was in preparation of marrige and sex really should be avoided till marrige like it says in the Bible.

Answer 6

you have a very valid point, i dont know any woman that will date a bum and at the same time i dont know any man that will date a bum lady, so the fact is, that people are attracted to materialistic things, who cares about a house and a fancy car, if your being abused and beat up. some bum may sweep you off your feet and be the nicest person in the world, give them a chance.

Answer 7

Depends on person. I am attractive, but 'unfortunatelly' I am smart and can earn my own money. Let it be Alen Delon or rich man, I don't care if I don't feel right contact. That is why I am alone. The most people date just because they don't want to be alone, etc. All you are talking about is not love. Partnerships, maybe. It is all fake and especially in showbusiness.

Answer 8

You are so wrong about this...Let me guess.......You are having trouble finding a date so you are taking stabs at girls right? I thought so. Just because a fellow gets a date does not mean he is going to get some sex you silly person. And your statements are not correct. Keep trying and eventually you will find a girl or a woman that will go out with you. don't expect her to give you sex just because she accepted an invitation to go out on a date. You need more lessons in life I think.

Answer 9

its really depends on what ur view of dating is, in ur case money is the foundation of it all. other people may see it as a "girl/guy hunt" where they just run around finding dates and one night stands, or some other people mite just hang around and wait for the perfect match untill they decide on dating. but money does come into a factor sooner or later but if true love happens, nothing is worth more than ur partner's love

Answer 10

OMG that is sooo true.. God Im a prostitute!!!!!!!! Not for real only for one guy, but anymore girls think that if a guy takes her out, she has to pay him back by sex. Isnt that crazy!!!!!???????!

Answer 11

Sounds like you have a real macho pig outlook on life. I hope as you date you get uglier AND are broke so that then you can answer your own STUPID question. BEST OF LUCK LOSER