We sent out our wedding invites and there are quite a few people who haven't replied either way. I'm not sure what I should do. I don't really want to call them and say, "hey, are you coming to my wedding or not", but at the same time, my sister got married last summer and a bunch of people who didn't respond just showed up.
She had a cocktail reception so it wasn't too big a deal food wise, but we're having a sit down dinner so we need to know pretty much exactly how many people are coming.
I'm not sure what my next step should be.
2007-03-19 11:33:58 · 15 answers · asked by duvalicious 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have your mom call them or maid of honor. Have them explain they need to know either way because you are paying per plate for dinner. I get so annoyed when people do not rsvp but show up anyway. 99% of my husbands family is very good at not responding but showing up anyway.
2007-03-19 16:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call them, you are completely within the right by doing so. Just call and say, Hi this is Jane, I havent recieved your rsvp card for the wedding back and due to strict headcount rules set up by my venue I want to just check and see if you are coming or not. I dont want to assume yes or no, so could you call me back. Do this as soon as possible because if you dont hear back from some you will need to recall again and this time say "This is Jane, I still havent recieved your response to the wedding and since I havent heard back I am going to mark you down as a no, if I am wrong please call me by the 5 o'clock tomorrow and let me know because I dont want you to show up and not have a seat at the reception."
Its tough that you have to be a hard a'ss because of some people's bad manners, but you are within your rights to do this.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 11:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can do it one of two ways call them an ask if they are comming or have reserved seats an hire a host that will kindly escort people away that didnt rsvp any way around it you look like the mean one but then again who is rude for not rsvp for a wedding an knowing it is going to counts needed
2007-03-19 12:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call them, and explain that you need an accurate count for the caterer. That way, YOU don't seem pushy about it.
I had to get after a bunch of people for MY wedding, too. It's pretty rude not to let the couple know, and it's TERRIBLY rude to show up if you didn't confirm!
2007-03-19 11:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL...we had to do this for my wedding. We gave the grooms mom her names and the brides mom ours. The moms simply called and said we didn't see your response and need to call in the count to the caterers. I so hope you are coming. So long as they dont ask WHY or WHY NOT it is fine. I'd say call... people lose those damn cards...they hold onto them to double check dates or remind them to buy cards.... theres a bunch of reasons why they dont get sent...dont take it personal.....assume that every person you call has mailed it and you just didn't get it.... keep a positive attitude and it will go fine. Al the best to you....
2007-03-19 15:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call them and just ask if they are coming or not. It is not rude to do this, it is the only way to find out for sure. Actually, it's rude not to RSVP. Calling and finding out will save you money because you won't have to plan ahead for extra people showing up.
2007-03-19 14:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by jenna11rn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your bridemaids to help you start making calls. There's really nothing else you can do as you need to know. I was amazed at the excuses I got when I had to that for my daughter's wedding. People are so rude these days.
2007-03-19 12:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set up a few tables for people who didn't RSVP. Put them in the back and don't put names, it will be first come, first serve. You can also contact them or ask your bridesmaid to follow up on the missing RSVPs.
2007-03-19 11:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right. you should call and ask were they planning on coming to the wedding? b/c you need to know how many seats, how much food, ect. i think it is bad etiquette to just show up without RSVP, so call. maybe they forgot to call, they might have been busy, so just call and remind them and see what they say.
2007-03-19 11:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what bridesmaids are for. Have the bridesmaids call and explain that you need an accurate number for the caterer. This way you don't have to do the calling and feel awkward.
Good luck
2007-03-19 11:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋