What the hell is this? my parents taught me be nice .?

Question

as my parents taught me, be nice to everyone.then i left my home, and start working.i saw ppl r lying on small things and
cheating each other. even ppl take advantage of my BE NICE
attitude.
i m confused, what the hell my parents taught me.this is diffrent world.
how should i behave? be nice or be bad.

Answer 1

be nice, but u gotta know when to draw the line and be assertive...
its good to do favors and nice things for people, but don't drive yourself crazy. if you feel people are taking advantage of you then never hesitate to say 'no'.

Answer 2

You are not responsible for anyone's behavior but your own, and you are totally and completely responsible for that.

If other people are lying, cheating, behaving badly, that doesn't justify you changing your behavior and starting to lie, cheat and behave badly.

However, you are not obligated to allow other people to use you as a doormat just because you are nice. Even nice people need a healthy dose of skepticism about others, a kind of "Oh, yeah?" when confronted by people who will try to use you or manipulate you. Make people EARN your trust before you give it to them. Doing that doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you a realistic person.

Decide for yourself what standards you set for your own behavior and how you want people to think of you. And sometimes it does require strength of character to adhere to being of good character when it seems like everyone around you is behaving badly. Be strong, set high standards and goals for yourself, and ignore the people who seem content with rootling around in the slime. You won't regret it.

Answer 3

Do as your parents say for they love you so much and have taught you right. You can be nice, but don't let anyone take advantage of that. There is nothing to be confused about. Get away from the people you describe. If you can't avoid them, change them. Introduce them to Jesus Christ.

Answer 4

Your parents apparently have done a good job raising you, don't let a few people doing the wrong things cause you to act like them.
I was always told you attract more flies with honey. I work in a service industry ( waitress) and I deal on a daily basis with a lot of nasty people, but I would not be able to do my job effectively if I was angry and nasty to them.
It is OK to not agree with others and there behaviors but to join them would not accomplish anything.

Stay nice in life and go further.

Answer 5

This is how a lot of people are. I'm not saying this is right but that's how it is.
Your parents taught you to be honest and sincere. What you need to do is be careful with who you deal with. Just continue being nice as you have been. Experience will teach you who you can trust.

Answer 6

Be nice, believe me it works... The world is a terrible place... I was always taught to be nice, and sometimes people remember that.... I've had some people say some of the most horrible things ever... but you gotta remember, just because the world is jumping off a bridge, must you lose your composure and follow suit?

And I respect you...
~Tati~

Answer 7

U should be you....you have to carry yourself with respect and dignity so that you can feel good about yourself at the end of the day ..that does not mean allowing people to have their way or not being truthful and telling people how you feel ..be nice if that's who you are and don't be "bad " just be firm with a smile ..you cant let others dictate who you will be you have to be in charge of you...

Answer 8

Your parents taught you this so you wouldn't fall for or become part of all that behavior. Utilize what was given to you and don't feel needy to fit in with people who don't have a clue how to get along. Peer pressure doesn't go away until you decide you don't want to play.

Answer 9

Ethics is the muse for a nicely balanced soul. Set your standards and carry on with them. enable the others whom "do no longer meet" your standards, merely vanish out of your radar. upward push above. There are different great persons accessible, we do merely no longer "open ourselves" as much as be harm with the help of the the remainder of the folk to in many circumstances. Be great, does no longer mean be a Door Mat! arise for your self and don't enable others decrease you to their behavour. I refer to them like 3 12 months olds..... that's no longer proper habit for little ones or responsibile adults.

Answer 10

I'm sure your parents didn't tell you to be nice only if people are nice to you. Ya know all those evil folks? Kill 'em with kindness!! Because what goes around comes around and your parents are very smart people!!