we broke up and now were on again. he told me he got his gf(when we broke up) pregnant so he had to marry with her. but now the baby was aborted and he dont have any responsibility at all. and he ask me for help, how can he backout from the wedding.
2007-03-19 11:24:21 · 18 answers · asked by Red C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
By growing a backbone and just doing it. If you are the one he loves and he wants to be with you, he needs to be honest with her and end it. It is going to hurt her feelings, but if he really cared for her at all, he wouldn't have hooked back up with you in the first place. If he wants to be with you, he needs to just pony up and tell her that their relationship is over.
You don't do anything. This is his responsibility.
2007-03-19 11:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he was only going to marry her b/c she was pregnant, that is completely the wrong reason. Getting married "for the kids" is one of the worst things you can do. If he doesn't want to marry this girl, he needs to tell her now, before any (anymore) wedding plans are made. It will hurt her less now than one month before their wedding, or after ending in divorce.
2007-03-19 18:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by pkbuddy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just need to get yourself out of this situation all together. The whole thing seems a little screwed up. I mean, he got another girl pregnant; will he break up with you and do the same thing again.
Walk Away, Fast...
2007-03-19 18:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He needs to tell the girl that he do not wants to get marry. And don't beat around the bush with it let her why. If she get mad she will get over it. It would be better for her to let him go than to see him cheat on her doing and before they were marry. Don't let him let you tell her, it's not your job,yes from the sound of it you got the guy.
Let him do it. Now before it gets to late and she starts pulling money out of her pocket for the wedding. You know how it happen on Judge Judy. HAHAHAHA!!!!!
2007-03-19 18:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by snicker4274 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't force his hand, he will resent you for it later. But this is an odd situation. Marrying the girl you knock up is no longer the only socially accepted solution so why did he commit in the first place?
2007-03-19 18:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is so messing with you. Play hard to get and make it clear that if he can't find a way out of the marriage on his own that you'll be out of his life. If he really wanted to be with you and only you... he'd take some action without your help.
2007-03-19 22:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by jennylynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that you want a man that asks a lady to be his wife and then backs out of it.DRAMA to me, I would never give a MAN a helping hand on ending wedding plans.Are you sure you want to have him back?Think long before you leap....
2007-03-19 18:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he needs to be a man and tell her himself that marriage is not what he wants, and never was he just was getting married for the child (which i believe is a wrong reason to get married, the year is 2007, not 1907). if hes not a real man that he can't be honest to her and himself why do you even want him?
2007-03-19 18:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's playing you....he didn' have to marry her just because she was pregnant.I bet they'd been talking lovey dovey marriage stuff before she got pregnant.Sounds like he's settling down and trying to have you as a sidedish...don't fall for it!
2007-03-19 18:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by Direktor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can do. The ball's in his court...if he doesn't want to marry her, he'll call off the wedding. But you need to stay out of it
2007-03-19 18:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by duvalicious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋