We got married on March 4th. Our wedding was wonderful. We have since returned from our honeymoon and opened our gifts and all. We are starting to realize that a LOT of people who RSVP'd they would be at the wedding not only did not bother to show up, but also have never called to provide an explanation, or sent a card to apologize. My husband and I are appalled. We realize that 32 out of the 127 people RSVP'ed they were coming and did not show up! Not ONE of them has sent any sort of explanation. We paid a lot of money accounting of these folks. What would you do?
2007-03-19 11:20:59 · 13 answers · asked by AK 4444477777777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There isn't really anything you can do. The people who didn't show up after RSVP-ing that they were coming are just rude. Be happy with your new life and forget about those people. There is no sense dwelling on it and making yourself miserable over their lack of class. Congrats on your new marriage!
2007-03-19 11:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you realizing this because you are opening gifts and didnt recieve gifts from some people? Is it possible that some people did come and just not bring a gift? 32 is an awfully high number to do this, usually its maybe 3 or 4 people, but 32 is a bit extreme, are you absolutely positive that these people did not attend? You say you are just realizing it now, I think you would have realized that many empty seats the day of the wedding and as your reflected on the day during the honeymoon.
I wouldnt go pointing fingers unless you are positive that this happened, ask around and see if maybe someone saw these people. If someone did see them, then they probably didnt bring a gift which is completely within their rights as a wedding is not a gift mandatory event.
2007-03-19 11:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in spite of them RSVP 'No' or 'sure' they'd desire to allow you comprehend out of being well mannered. i might call them and ask certainly. No RSVP would not recommend a 'no' each and each of the time. now and returned they have forgotten to replying, or are only being impolite! there is not any disgrace is seeking to be certain. desire this permits! x
2016-10-01 04:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is alot of people that didn't show-i of course would be extremely upset-and i'm sure that you alreaddy did assume that about 10 or less that did rsvp weren't going to come because either something else came up or someone was sick-some might have assumed that you were extremely busy and and gone on your honey moon to attend-i'm sure most people didn't know that they were not going until that day!! that still is alot of people and i'm sorry to hear about that-but i'm sure that a couple of them might still send you a card and explaining what happend-definetally not all but you can count on a couple ateast- congratulations by the way!!
2007-03-19 14:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by ang925 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point there is nothing you can do. The wedding is over and they didn't show up. No sense in asking them for an explanation..it does not matter. You enjoyed your day and that's that.
2007-03-19 14:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by sjlova86 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much you can do. The wedding has passed, I wouldn't hold a grudge b/c there is nothing you can do about it. However, the next time you run into them, casual say, "We were disappointed to not see you at the wedding. I hope everything is OK and nothing bad happened." But, you don't have to say that. It's completely up to you.
2007-03-19 11:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally feel where you are coming from. You just have to go on with life, as annoying as it is. That happened to me at my first wedding. Now that I'm getting married again, I learned through my mistakes and am only inviting people who are VERY important in our lives.
2007-03-19 11:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by abbacat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything you can really do. I agree with you, it is extremely rude to RSVP and then ignore the occasion completely. But, unfortunately, there's no way to "get your money back". You'll have to move on; hopefully, none of these people are your close friends.
2007-03-19 11:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless they had an emergency, there is no excuse for this. Even those that had an emergency should contact you once it was resolved and explain the situation.
2007-03-19 11:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Flyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel ur pain!!! had that on my wedding, birthday parties and other occasions. these people just simply doesnt have any courtesy....that's why i no longer invite these annoying no show no explaination types of guests..
congratulations!
2007-03-19 11:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋