So me and this girl I really like have been chatting on msn quite a bit the last while. Im actually thinking of asking her out soon. We get along amazing in person but I donno, I just have a hard time coming up with new topics to talk about, when we talk on msn. Like we'll talk about how our day went and new things going on, but then Itll end with a "lol" or something that we just cant keep working off of. Now I see alot of people say "just ask questions", well sorry to say it but no one wants to just be realxing infront of their computer having a great conversation and then "So what are your plans for next year?" If someone was to ask that in person while you were hanging out youd be like.... ya... ok.... thats weird. For those people who talk to their bf/gf on msn alot do you guys just talk and talk and talk? Or are those breaks in conversation for 5-10 minutes every now and then as you do something else online? Just wondering if its just me...
2007-03-19 10:59:37 · 12 answers · asked by teh_masta_of_all 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pauses are OK. I know it's not quite the same thing, but I have VERy good friends that I chat with ALL day. Sometimes non-stop for hours, sometimes we'll go a while without saying anything, then just pick up liek chat never slowed.
2007-03-19 11:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy I talk to online that I like (who lives like 650 miles from me).. we do have pauses in our conversation, but that's cause he gets distracted with other stuff such as the phone, tv or other stuff, so he'll go idle for like 10 minutes and then come back. But we have this thing where we ask what the other person is doing every so often and I think it could break the ice for you, or just seem weird to you. We also talk about completely random stuff that is just off the wall. so it's easier for us to keep up with conversations for hours.
2007-03-19 18:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love to talk on messenger and I always have it opened when I am doing other stuff...sometimes we talk and talk but there has to be a 5-10 min pause somewhere, I mean think about it, that person might get thirsty or hungry or as well they might have to look for some information online for homework or basically they are just chatting with some other friends and sometimes its just to hard to keep up with the pace...try it...i know that you wont regret doing it
2007-03-19 18:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by angelbaby8087 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, man i've been in your situation. I never thought it could be awkward to talk to a girl online until it happend to me.
Well, The way you should talk to her is no put so much pressure into chatting, what I do is I will get online and wait for the girl to message me, then I wait a few minutes or so to say hey back.
And when she ask me a question like "how was your day" I use simple responses like "alright" or "good"
anyways, to answer your question, YES pauses online are almost the online way to talk, just act like your always multitasking when you talk to the chick it will make it seem like your a busy man.
2007-03-19 18:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by LemmeSeeYaCardzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talk to my bf online all the time and yes we do have breaks in our conversation every now and then. I think its common to have breaks in conversations. I've learned that being in a relationship doesn't mean that you have to be talking to them 24/7. You have to realize that people get busy when they are online, there is so much to do. Don't worry about it ok. As long as you two get along off the internet thats all that counts.
2007-03-19 18:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lost in a Relationship 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talk to quite a few people very often, and breaks are normal. Most of them are proceeded by "brb" but some of them just happen when both people realize there is nothing else to say, and subcociously enjoy the silence. Don't worry about it, and think of it as a nice moment of thought, or a small break, depending on what sort of person you are.
Hope this helps ;)
2007-03-19 18:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my best advice is to just think of it as if you were talking to yourself. what are some questions you would ask? the jokes you would make? ask her if she knows what to talk about. ask about some things you have in common. what you love and what you hate. there are a lot of things to talk about trust me when im on the phone with my bf, we're so desperate that we start talking about license plates. but all that should matter is talking to her so try and say things that require a response (not just a yes or no, but something to start a big conversation). good luck to ya!
2007-03-19 18:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by Klizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i chat with my hubby on and off all day we try to be respectful and i will let him no ill be back in few mins or half hour or whatever but lots of time if we are both on doing other things we chat in spurts ill let him know something interesting that i just found out .....just as in a relationships in the real word the silence should not be awkware with the one you love
2007-03-19 18:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by allidsaregone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever I see that the conversation is simmering down, I say I have to go grab something to eat or something like that, and then I come back when I have new things to say.
2007-03-19 18:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha its funny cuz the same thing happens to me and my bf. i ask him 2 play 20 questions with me it last pretty long and then after we talk it about what we talked about within the conversation. then we talk romantically about how bad we want each other at that moment. but ther is often long pauses since your not face to face it happens alot to us.
2007-03-19 18:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by missy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋