Home school?vs.Public School??

Question

I am thinking about homeschooling my daughter for at least the first few years maybe middleschool or even high school. I was just wondering what peoples opioins where about it. I my self went to public school and thought it was ridiculious, and I am fullaly capable to teach her...So why not right?

Exspecially due to all the violence,drugs,sex, and even shootings and bombs. What do you think??

Answer 1

Hi There,

I have been homeschooling my son who is aged 14 years since he was hit by a car last year and is still in recovery.
Prior to his accident he was in a class of 22. I have seen a great improvement in his work since beginning home schooling. I plan to home school all three of my school aged children from next year.

Reports have abundantly documented that students often graduate from public schools even though they have little skill in reading, writing, and arithmetic. In home schools, parents work directly with their own children. They see immediately if the child is not learning well, so they can take action to solve the problem. Personal interaction with the teacher develops the students' ability to reason and communicate.

I can see so many advantages to homeschooling. I, as his teacher, am dealing directly with my son as student. The pacec is adapted to him. He can be challenged and advanced in areas where he has strengths.

In a classroom, each child has little access to the teacher's time. Home schools have much more interaction between parents and students. Problems can readily be perceived and dealt with. If the child has a question or needs attention, the teacher is more easily available. Learning is more from person to person and less from books and machines.

In the home school, the teacher works directly with each student, progressing when the child is ready. Many students learn more in 2-5 hours daily than do other students who are gone from home 8-10 hours and then come home to several hours of homework!

We believe home schools need a planned schedule. However, parents can still feel free to fit in special learning opportunities that fixed classroom hours may not allow. Students can take special field trips, attend interesting events, or visit with informative people. Families can plan vacations during the off- season while other kids must be at classes.

When children are at school 9-10 hours a day (not counting extra-curricular activities), family ties are weakened, especially if family values are contradicted by teachers or students. Home-schooled children spend much more time with their families. This naturally strengthens family ties.

Families study, work and play together. Children learn to love and appreciate parents, brothers, and sisters. They can enjoy children of various ages. All family members become much closer to one another. For my family, this has been one of the best bonuses of home schooling.

One of the biggest problems in public schools is the bad influence students have on one another. Kids lie, cheat, steal, disrespect authority, or use drugs, bad language, or immodest dress. Even good students are forced to be around kids who act this way. Home-schooled kids associate with the children that their family chooses for them to associate with. This weakens the harmful influence of "bad crowds."

Some people think that kids in home schools are too isolated socially. However, by avoiding peer pressures, home-schooled students learn to develop naturally in the environment God gave kids -- the family. Remember, the school is the human innovation; the family was designed by God.

Home-schooled children learn to think independently from their peers. They learn to invent ways to entertain themselves. Because they associate with adults and with kids of other ages continually, they learn to get along with people of all ages, not just people their own age. This generally makes them social leaders.

With homeschooling You, not the government, are the ones in charge of your child's training. Home schoolers have the ideal situation for giving the education they believe is best for their children. Eliminated are all the continual doubts, problems, and conflicts with teachers, administrators, school policies, etc. As a result, the whole family feels good about how the child is being educated.

Please remember that home schooling is not an automatic cure-all. It takes much hard work to do it right, and no parents should begin unless they intend to do the job diligently. The decision whether or not to home school should be preceded by much careful thought and planning. Many good books are available to help parents understand what is really involved.

I hope this helps.

Sharon

Answer 2

I think you should homeschool. I am in middle school at the moment and I would LOVE to be home schooled. At my school there is not a lot of bullying but I know middle school is the worst year for it. Also there is about 6-7 kids who do drugs and/or smoke e-cigs😷 drugs is a major issue in middle school as well as bullying. Which both happen at ALL middle schools. I am actually in the popular group and I regret it so much!!!. There is a lot of girls being not included from party's and gatherings or even at lunch. There is a lot of dirty name calling and swearing. Harassment isn't an issue luckily and I will honestly say my best friends is a boy and my older cousin. Middle school does have many issues and inappropriate issues and behavior/actions o_o... So I suggest homeschooling and if you think no because socializing with others is good then get her into some sports. I do horseback riding and I'm in love and wouldn't want be doing anything else. I hope my advice helped
~Kayley Sky(:

Answer 3

First of all, I would reframe your decision. You should not look at it as a question of whether to subject your child to bombs and sex (both of which are largely absent in elementary school). Neither should you dismiss the possibility of homeschooling entirely on the grounds that the child will not be well adjusted, as many would have you do.

Homeschooling requires commitment and follow-through. You (or your spouse) must be willing to consistently teach your child. I know several homeschoolin parents, and the biggest temptation is to let the work just slide.

You must also be willing to facilitate interraction between your child and other children. This is well within the realms of the possible, and I believe the social benefits of public school area grossly overstated (if not outright negative). That said, your child must have the opportunity to learn how to mete out disagreement, discuss feelings, and form bonds with children their own age.

If you are willing to do the work, homeschooling can be a very rewarding experience.

Answer 4

I'm with you on this one. Public school is such a waiste of time and energy. Especially with all the bad influences. The last thing a bright child needs is to be bored and have time on their hands to be influenced by all the wrong things.
I have been told to contact the school district. Where we live there is a home school program. My daughter is not quite 2 yet, so I haven't really gotten anything started, but I plan to start checking things out. I'm wondering if preschool is even necessary, if the child knows and understands what she/he needs to then why go thru preschool when she has plenty of socialization at day care. Thats my take.

Answer 5

here's what i would do with my future children from prek - 8th grade private school that is religion based, that way they have morals and discipline etc, for high school either an all boys or all girls school so no sex would happen...hopefully or they can be homeschooled.

I think home schooling is a good idea, but see if you could get like two other mothers who homeschool too and different days all the home schooled kids go to one house then the next day the other persons house etc, so the student would have other classmates who are not their sibling.

to the person who say kids need socializing you're right and wrong, there's a home schoold children group too. :)

Answer 6

Being home schooled will not expose her to interactions with a crowd of kids unlike her, and that is a very important part of life. You can always give her an extra hour or two a day of tutoring if you feel she needs to learn beyond what she is taught in school.

Do not be afraid of sex and drugs - a good parent will be able to teach his child how to handle them properly, and they really are not a problem in elementary school. Violence may be, but unless you plan to shield her for life or move to a human-free zone, she will have to learn to cope with that.

As for shootings and bombs - they can happen anywhere, anytime. Even recently in an Amish school or on the streets of every city and most suburbs. Hiding will not help. And besides, many more kids are killed in car accidents than by guns. Don't let the media hype get in the way of the truth.

Answer 7

I think kids miss out socially in homeschools. It is so important to learn to interact with other people. I agree it is scary with the violence etc. but it is a part of life they will be exposed to at some point, I dont mean to sound callas (I cried not in front of her, when my daughter told me she learned an intruder drill at school). My oldest in only in 2nd grade but it has been fine so far. I have a friend who has home schooled her son and now had to put him in school at 4th grade and he is struggling due to the fact he never had a classroom environment, where he had to sit down and be quiet if it was not his turn, and the fact that he is responsible for a lot that his mother did for him (keeping organized etc.) It also teaches them how to cope without the parent around, and realize it is ok and solve some problems on their own. I cant say about high school and middle school as my children are not there yet.

Answer 8

I have a son who is 11. So many of the fears I had going into homeschooling have proven not to be an issue.

For instance, I had a substandard public school education, and worried about my ability to teach him. However as you see in the news, many textbooks are incorrect, and many teachers can't pass some of the (pointless) standardized tests they're forced to teach to. However just as a teacher has to plan their lessons and prepare, so do I. It's been a wonderful way of remediating my own educational gaps from my public school years. I'm still a work in progress, but he's a powerful motivator to do what I might otherwise let slide.

I worried about socialization terribly. I worried more when my son struggled with our local homeschool group. He just could not make friends. I stopped taking him to that group, and focused more on playdates with other kids he was already friendly with. Over the years he's come into his own, and is able to succeed socially in any situation. In team sports, with the kids in our neighborhood, in playgroups, he's a leader. He hasn't been bullied, harassed, or beaten down, so he has no idea why some other kids wouldn't want to be his friend. He's nice to them, they're nice to him. It's a simple equation that our societal acceptance of bullying has warped. My son has a strong, healthy self-esteem, and doesn't have to define himself as a good person because he's better than someone else, he simply strives for excellence, and judges himself not based on what others can do, but what *he* can do.

I got a wonderful compliment from one of the Moms in our neighborhood, that she saw my son reaching out to include some of the shyer kids, and my son's friends just welcomed them. It's changed the dynamics of the kids in the neighborhood. They look up to my son, so anyone he thinks is okay, is okay with them.

Part of homeschooling is about surrounding yourself with excellent people, because you are not your child's sole teacher! I worried about making those connections, but the homeschooling community has grown so dramatically that unless you literally live in rural farm land hours from a suburban city, you'll meet people from every walk of life, all of whom are happy to share what they know, and create group learning experiences for their children. There's an old-fashioned community sense to homeschooling, the educational equivalent of a barn raising. It's really something wonderful to be a part of.

It is a lot of "work", but it's fun work. I can't imagine doing anything else. I can't imagine who or what my son would be if we had put in in public school. He was a sensitive kid, who wouldn't have done well in a public school situation. Instead, he was allowed to blossom, and come into his own, and is so much stronger and healthier because of it.

Answer 9

Homeschooling is fine if done right. You should make sure to have structure. Also, contrary to popular belief, homeschoolers have PLENTY of resources to socialize with other kids. There are Scouts groups, the YMCA, neighborhood sports, church, volunteers groups, you name it! I was public schooled, and if you ask MY opinion, PS is NOTHING like the real world. I mean, where in the working world do you have to ask permission to go to the bathroom??

Answer 10

You'll never be able to shelter her from all those things but as a mom of a daughter that will be entering kindergarden this fall...I feel the same way. I believe it comes down to being able to devote your time to her and her schooling and also allowing her the joy of being around her peers so that she doesn't lose out on having friends her age. I'm battling the same things. I know that whatever we choose will be the best decision for our children.