how do i make sure they dont feel left out?

Question

im pregnant with another little boy. i will then have 3 boys all aged 4 and under. anyone else been in the same position? any tips on keeping them all amused and ensuring my 2 boys wont feel left out when the new baby comes? my youngest is only 14 months

Answer 1

When I was pregnant with my son I wanted to make sure that my daughter felt like she was a part of it. We went to build a bear and she made him a stuffed bear, i let her pick everything out, clothes...etc, after I had him she was able to bring it in for him, that was very special to her because she felt like she had something on her own for her new brother, that was our first step.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Hi

First of all Misty - FAB IDEA!!!! Will try that one myself.

I am 32 weeks pregnant with my second child and i too have been wondering about how my daughter will cope. I have been advised the following - make sure she is involved at all times, never tell her that you cant do anythign with her "because of the baby". Buy a present for the other children from the baby.

When you come home fromhospital, let the kids be the first to gree the new baby. Ask relatives not to ignore the other kids when they come to visit and maybe have a few little gifts hidden away to give them now and again as if from visitors if they dont brng anythign themselves. above all talk to the other kids and keep them involved at all times

Answer 3

Yes but not with boys. I had 5 kids in 6 1/2 years only oldestis a boy.
Let the older ones help with the baby. They can pass you nappies, put the soap on the sponge for you at bath time etc. You will have time to spend with them still, you can sit with them when you are feeding and read to them. As long as you continue to talk to them and explain that sometimes you have to take a few minutes to settle the baby they'll be fine. I know too much tv is not great but it can be a good tool when you want to put the baby down. put them infront of a favourite video to keep them still and entertained while you have to be out of the room. If you limit the amount of tv time they have, this will be more of a treat.
Good luck - you'll be fine.

Answer 4

there is never going to be a time when your eldest children do not feel a little left out but it is all part of life and growing up. however so your eldest two children do not end up hating your new born child or growing jealous of him you should talk to them about him, let them know that even though they r young they can help bath the baby, that when your changing the babys nappy you will need your two big boys to be your helpers and pass you the babys things, allow them to buy the baby a present and pick a present up yourself for the eldest two children and hand it to them the day the baby is born and put it from their little brother to his special big brothers so that they feel involved in the day and do not feel left out of all the attention. also try and make sure that family and friends do not ignore your eldest children when they come to see the new baby. also try to spend time with each child, this is very hard to do during the day so try to set up seperate bedtimes so that you can read a story to each child so that they have their own special 'mummy time' thats just for them