My boyfriend and I have been dateing for a little over 6 months, we've had little fights before, we've broken up but when he's mad he tells me he never thinks he just speaks even if he doesnt mean it. We've gotten threw all of it, and now he's more serious about it this time. He say's he wants to try being single and see what he feels he needs. To be single, or to be in a relationship with me. I love him so much, i know he cares about me he's told me he still cares. I ask him if he'll want me back and he says he doesnt know. I cant help but ask him questions. I need advice big time, because im messing it up even worse by bothering him. I don't want to leave him and even he said "we might be meant to be nicolle, and if we are we'll end up back together" he's come back to me everytime he's done this i just dont knwo what to do this time. please help me give me advice!!
2007-03-19 10:38:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend and I have been dateing for a little over 6 months, we've had little fights before, we've broken up but when he's mad he tells me he never thinks he just speaks even if he doesnt mean it. We've gotten threw all of it, and now he's more serious about it this time. He say's he wants to try being single and see what he feels he needs. To be single, or to be in a relationship with me. I love him so much, i know he cares about me he's told me he still cares. I ask him if he'll want me back and he says he doesnt know. I cant help but ask him questions. I need advice big time, because im messing it up even worse by bothering him. I don't want to leave him and even he said "we might be meant to be nicolle, and if we are we'll end up back together" he's come back to me everytime he's done this i just dont knwo what to do this time. please help me give me advice!! and he has told me he doesnt want ot be with other girls. he isnt going to date anyone else he's ensured me
2007-03-19 10:50:35 · update #1
and he has told me he doesnt want ot be with other girls. he isnt going to date anyone else he's ensured me
2007-03-19 10:50:50 · update #2
he still calls me babe n stuff too
2007-03-19 11:01:31 · update #3
Nicolle,
I know this sucks for you big time and I am sorry! I think you should try your hardest to find something to occupy your time. Fight every urge you have to call him, If you have to call me! There is something odd about men, the more attention you give them the more they tend to head for the hills. When I can tell my husband is going through a "MOMENT" I just totally give him his space. Then he is back bugging me and annoying me asking me if I love him. When I bug him- he gets annoyed and seems to push me away. It's sounds like he is going through a moment- just give him the space he needs! e-mail me if you need too! I will be here 4 u! ;) amie
2007-03-19 10:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. Most people that have been these feelings are not sure that they love the person they are currently with enough to make a 100% committment. I think you deserve the same effort from someone else as that which you give.
My advise is to give him some room. Do not bring this topic up constantly. He feels suffercated by this issue and wants some space. Sure he wants to date other people, but if you allow him to do this while being there for him then he will only take advantage of you and use you.
He needs to realize what life is about without you in it. If he likes it then you will know that he was not meant for you. He he chooses to come back, hopefully he can make a strong committment to your relationship.
This is not easy to do as you will experience loneliness, anger, and depression. Please stay busy, take up hobbies or activities to pass the time. Tell him that you will begin to go out with girl friends as well.
2007-03-19 10:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by charlie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bug him, don't avoid him, don't over emphasize or emote in front of him. You have to lead your life as if you want to get over him and do what you normally would do if you were single. You can be friends, but let him initiate. Be prepared for either possibility. DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY. I don't know him so I won't judge, but sometimes even the sweetest man is capable of having multiple partners and if your hearts in it, it will further mess your head up. You know him so keep his most likely reactions in mind before you go about doing whatever you do together.
2007-03-19 10:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by charmedemuirgic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is clear he needs his space right now and the best thing you can do for him if you truly care about him is give it to him. Maybe you should take this time to feel what it is like to be single yourself. Feel free to date other guys and enjoy yourself. He could see what he is missing and come back or you both could find your soul mates in the process.
2007-03-19 10:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jayne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go- you are better than this. No man is attracted to a woman who is needy. If you are independent and focused on you, believe it or not you become more attractive to the opposite sex. Learn not to be dependent on someone else for your happiness. Take care of you.....he may come back, he may not. What you may find is that you may have more and better options in the long run!
2007-03-19 10:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly W 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing you can do for you is to let him go. Don't let him go with the hopes of getting back together, that may happen, but it may not. Just let him go. I know it is hard to do, but he is right, if you are going to be it will happen. Let him go and see what it is he needs. He will probably find himself missing you, but he can't get that chance if you are still holding on.
2007-03-19 10:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well..maybe you should just try to forget about him for a little while. he probably just needs some time to think. i can understand that you are a lil frustrated about him. you should let him think about it for a while. let him grab his feelings about you. after a little while, when you think that he is taking too long to answer your question, talk to him one on one. and ask him everything you need to know but let him knoe you support his idea and that you can give him some room.
2007-03-19 10:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to take some alone time for yourself and be single and if it's meant to be he'll come back to you.
2007-03-19 10:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him.He wants to screw others but keep you on as a "fall-back".He knows he has got you emotionally and he figures he "can have his pie and eat it too"
2007-03-19 10:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by siaosi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey i wouldnt mind. i just broke up with my boyfriend i like it alot better because i could flirt with who i want.
not to mention i only said yes to the guy cuz i felt bad.
so good luck and happy flirting
2007-03-19 10:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by james 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋