Its her sisters wedding. My daughter will be almost 4 (bday is at the end of July)
Any tips on having a small child in a wedding? I plan to have color books & a dvd player at the reception to keep her occupied. But what about during the ceremony?
Thanks for the help!
2007-03-19 10:35:00 · 13 answers · asked by halloweenbride97 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My 3yo daughter and her 3yo cousin were flower girls at their Aunts wedding several years back. My brother in law and I had jelly bellys in our pocket to keep them quiet during the ceremony. They came and sat with us well my girl went to Uncles lap and I ended up with my neice. They sat perfectly still and watched as the vows were said eating their jelly bellies. During the reception they were so busy running around that they didnt have time to get into trouble. Besides your little girl will have a princess dress that when she spins will poof out (usually a big thing for little girls) and when the bride and groom dance she will be right there with them. Hopefully the bride has a sense of humor and will understand should she trip or make faces or just be her adorable cute self.
2007-03-19 10:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sweet! She's a perfect age for it! The biggest thing that you will have to do as a mom is give up a bit of control that day, I know it is hard. This happened when my son was 4 and was ring bearer for his godfather. Here's what I mean. At the ceremony, she will do her "job", then be with the bridesmaids. Hopefully she's not clingy to you and is independent enough to do this. Then after the ceremony, you just have to let her go with the wedding party for photographs (part of me SO BADLY wanted to go along, just in case he misbehaved!). Then depends what they do at the reception, most times little kids aren't at the head table, but she may be. She'll have a blast at the reception, so fine to have coloring books, but don't bother with the DVD player. She'll be running around and dancing, just being her beautiful self, having the time of her life!
2007-03-19 17:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be angry if a small child stayed for the entire reception. The kids at my wedding were escorted away after the 1st dance (some immediately after dinner). I dont think its the proper place for kids under 12 after about 8 pm cause people start drinking, dancing and talking in a way that is not always appropriate and it is not a kid event. IMO. My ceremony was LONGGGGGGG.... during the rehearsal we gave each kid an option of two people to sit with.... one at the front of the church, the other a trusted friend at the m iddle of the church..... my flower girl....just got up in the middle of the service walked to the friend and asked to go potty...it worked wonderful......her mom was the one sitting at the front of the church.... but she had a role in the wedding as well. Both people had different things to entertain her during the ceremony.... for the girls it was easy... lip gloss, a puzzle box, a small purse with a notebook and pen....it was harder to find "quiet" things for the boys....but they like the freedom to move...and the priest was good with it cause we explained our plan. Good luck
2007-03-19 23:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a church wedding, most churches have a "crying room" in the back designed for small children who get fussy during services.
Ask a family member or friend who wouldn't be terribly upset about missing the ceremony to watch over your daughter, and if necessary, take her outside.
Explain to your daughter that during the ceremony she has to stay very still and quiet, and pretend she's a little mouse or a sleepy cat. Tell her that if she really wants to leave, it's okay, but show her how to ask you quietly, and practice with her before the big day. I'd also recommend her favorite stuffed toy to bring to the ceremony.
2007-03-19 17:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your worried that she wont be able to stand still during the ceremony. If it's her sister you must be the Mother of the Bride or the Step Mom maybe. Anyway, I'm sure your going to be sitting on the front row or even the second row maybe. After the Bride walks down the aisle have her come sit with you and after the ceremony she can get up and walk out after the Bride and Groom or she can wait and walk with you. Good Luck! Hope it all goes well!
2007-03-19 22:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she has lots of sleep the night before so that she isn't cranky. Let her know that she has a very important job to do to make the day perfect, that way she feels important too! :) During the ceremony I would say sit next to her and hold her hand and try to just stay really positive. Hopefully she can stay well enough behaved to make it through. Alternatively, you could have a babysitter there with her that could take her out into the hall if she can't sit still long enough.
2007-03-19 17:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by dougandkate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at a friend of mine's wedding, the flower girl was very very young. we had to coax her down the aisle with gummy bears... it's actually a good idea in case the little one gets anxious-- a BM has some candy and hands it to the little one. Also, if it is a church-- chances are they have a tiny chair where they have sunday school classes-- i've thought about putting a chair there for my FG.
also.. for my wedding, i'm having the "real food" and then also chicken tenders, pizza, and mac n cheese and stuff like that the Kids enjoy.
2007-03-19 21:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by bec 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the ceremony of marraige, is Holy and solumn, it is the only sacrament God has given us, [besides communion] no, i am not catholic. she needs to be quiet and well behaved. Its not 'cute' when a child disrupts this ceremony.
If she is rowdy, i would strongly suggest having a child about 7 or 8. the reception is meant for fun, but the ceremony is always respectable.
2007-03-19 18:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 children. 2 and 5. when i got married in 04 my son was in the wedding and he was only 3. if they want her in the wedding have them set it up to were an older child on the other side of the wedding party is walking with her down the isle and let her come back to sit wtih u after she walks down. but have u sit in the first or second row
2007-03-19 17:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by mindy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was in my wedding when she was four years old as a flowergirl. After she walked down the aisle, I had her set with my parents.
2007-03-19 17:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋