My mom is driving me nuts?

Question

Seriously. She is always yelling at me about something. Whether it's my grades, or my bedtime. She always gets angry if I'm not in bed by 11:00 so I usually just go to my room and read. Except I'll be reading in my bed and she'll just stand by my door and watch me, and it scares the crap out of me. She always asks, "what's wrong? are you upset about something?" and I usually snap at her and tell her to go away. It's so irritating. 11:00 is too early for me to go to bed but she can't accept that so she just starts screaming at me to go to sleep. Which makes no sense cause if she's yelling at me how can I even fall asleep?

Anyways, I am really annoyed at her. How can I get her to stop?

I am 13 years old by the way.

Answer 1

She sounds like a typical mom...Be happy that your mom is still alive...enjoy her while you can

Answer 2

I don't think 11 p.m. is too early for a 13 year old to go to bed. How are your grades? In my family, 11 p.m. to 11:30 p.m (we don't have to get up until 7:45 a.m. though). is acceptable bedtimes for a school night IF your grades are kept up and that means nothing lower than a B. If the grades drop, so does bedtime until the grades have been brought back up.

Is your mom going through a stressful time about something? Lots of times that will make parents really nit-picky and argumentative. Maybe you can ask a trusted relative to have a talk with her about her yelling. She probably isn't even aware of how she's coming across.

Answer 3

My mother does the same thing, but I have to go to sleep by like 10 cause my school starts at 7:10, which means waking up at 5:30 am. There is really no way to make her stop...she's your mom...and i guess she thinks it's her right of passage to do that. My mom doesn't yell at me cause of bedtime (10 pm)or grades (straight As), but usually food habits cause I don't eat enough. I guess just tune her out and be exceptional in school, so she'll stop caring about the bedtime conflicts. I mean, my mom yells at me if I get like an 89 on a test...or an A- on my report card...not good.

Answer 4

Hey hang on in there... it will get better and then worse.... (!!) at least she is still there, even if she is yelling sometimes! You do need eight hours sleep so I hope you are getting that, it is difficult if you are a bit of a night time kid... I hope things settle down! She maybe feels like she needs some 'space' before she goes to bed and if you are still up and about she can't relax...so... make as if you ARE going off to bed/sleep and she will back off, happy.... just don't play the music but plug in the ipod etc... good luck!

Answer 5

honestly, the whole mom yelling this doesnt get better the older you get. when i was 13, my mom did the same thing to me, except i would just go to my room and talk on the phone or watch TV and i would think she didnt know what i was doing, and i was wrong because she always knew it. but now im 18 and i still get yelled at, but now its for different things. i am going away to collge in a couple of months and my mom is forever being mad at me cause i dont want to stay home on the weekends- i would rather be out and about with my friends while i still have time.

the only thing that i can tell you is to just listen to her. go to bed or pretend to atleast and when she goes to bed, if you havent fallen alseep yet, read that book.

lol or you could always buy one of those book lights that attatches to your book so you can read in the dark.

Good luck and try not to be mad at your mom, shes just trying to help.

Answer 6

Mhhh first don´t worry so much for this. Being 13 is no easy neither 17 (usually get´s worst if you don´t talk to each other, the thing is usually at that age we don´t wan´t to talk!! :S. I used to have (as anyone else) these kind of problems with my mom. I lost her past September (I´m 27 now) she died from breast cancer after struggling a whole year with these horrible disease :, ( . My best advice is communication! talk to her! maybe she´s doesn't want you to grow to fast! believe me, she can be YOUR BEST FRIEND!! she always wants what is best for you! so listen to her, and let her know how she feels! I´m pretty sure you can make things work for the best of both of you!
I know now, that the kind of love a mother gives is THE GREATEST in the whole world !!! try it! you won´t be disappointed

Answer 7

She is doing it because you are only 13. A parent never stops worrying about their kids, its just natural. what you have to do is ask your mom when she is in a good mood if she will sit down and talk to you without getting mad to solve all the negative stuff thats going on like the arguing part. When she sits down with you ask her not to comment on anything until you are done please will she do this? If she says yes, tell her to please let you finish first then tell you what she wants to tell you. Ask her if she wants to be enemies or friends? Ask her if you don't feel really tired does it matter what time you go to bed because you know if you don't go early you are cranky or moody and you will promise to do these things but could she please give you a bit of leeway? If you stay up to 12:30 am one night, you know you will be tired but what does it hurt once a week or so to stay up late? Can she please help you understand the yelling part because you don't want to hear yelling because it triggers you to get angry and you don't want to get angry you want to be positive but it feels clostrophobic when she yells. Ask her if twice a week would she mind if you could stay up till midnight? Tell her that you are not a baby anymore but just trying to figure things out as you get older and you just want to have a bit of flexibility during the week because you are going to be in high school next year. Ask her to, could she please not yell at you at night but give you a little reminder without yelling so you don't get startled and upset and can't sleep because you think she is angry at you. She should understand this. I hope this helped a bit, mostly you just have to learn how to talk to your parnet quietly and remind them that you are right here so they don't have to yell please! Take care Heather

Answer 8

The key is communication, instead of yelling at each other, sit down and have a nice long talk with her. Express your feelings and allow her time to express hers. And for the love of God be thankful you have a mother who cares about you, I lost my father when I was 9 to suicide and my mother(shortly after) abandoned my sister(who was 5 at the time) and became heavy into drugs. I haven't seen her or heard from her in years(I'm 22 now). So give thanks from time to time ok. Good luck with everything.

Answer 9

try locking your bedroom door and if she yells at you tell her you are not going to talk to her when she is acting irrationally. You just have to disengage otherwise your snapping at her will be used against you. OR you can go to bed without her having to tell you, that will make her think you are listening to her and when she sees you are being responsible like that she'll stop nagging you about it. I know it sucks to follow stupid rules like that, but wouldn't you rather read in silence rather than listening to her yell??

Answer 10

Poor you. You have a mom who cares about you. Just imagine what it would be like to have a mom who didn't care what you did. Maybe you would want a mom on drugs or alcohol or one who's never home. Or you might be like the poor boy who went home after school and found out that his mother had been killed in a car wreck.
Count your blessings, son. Mom won't be around forever. Surprise her and tell her you love her.

Answer 11

ok if you are a grl, your mom is just worried about you...i am 13 as well and my mom can irritate me too, but think about this....what if your mom went to work tomorro and got hit by a semi? shed die and you would NEVER see her EVER again....just try to put up with her....find something to do with her that you have in common.....like my mom and i both love horses so we bond by going horseback riding with our friend....she bought me a horse so i am repaying her by just loving her to death......your mom is worried about u....13 is a shaky age