why do i suck?

Question

back to work on tuesday so dreading it,what do u say to a person (it's a girl)who u know hates ! me. and would go out of her way to like make fun of u when others are around and doesn't say anything on her own.
i haven't said anything but hello once,oh she so hates me and i actually find it hard to talk to people i guess she thinks i put it on to be rude or something which i so don't get why would i not say anything to be rude?i don't think i can change how she feels but if she knew i was like this at home as well as work and hardly ever go out maybe she would stop.but then that would leave me open for more insult why don't u like anyone no wonder no one likes you.
it sucks !
sorry to mention my silly problems but at least u can't say anthing bad to my face and i can kinda talk about it
lol jp

she's nice to everyone else and all my friends say how what a lovely girl she is,she doesn't like me at all and like makes a point of letting me know to provoke a reaction or something . i know her 4 1/2 years and have said nothing seriously i can't understand how she can hate me so much,she makes comment just wee things but when she says them i feel like **** the whole day and don't eat.
i am so weird quiet and hardly ever speak it is so bad espically when i want to.i want her to like me.i can't go over and say hi,edell i don't mean to be rude im just like weird all the time. how could that possible help and gives her more to comment on.
i'm so dreading this week and the next . if it was someone else i would say just talk to them , but how can i talk to someone who hates me when i have trouble talking to people who actually like me.

i want to like me as a friend

she doesn't like me ! i not that good looking

Answer 1

Okay... you cant make EVERYONE like you. So dont even try. You can ask if shes got a problem with you... If she says no and u still have that vibe.. hit her in the head with a spit ball and say that the person to the left of you did it. Then she'll have someone else to turn her negative attentions on.

Answer 2

After enduring this crap for so long, why would you choose to take her **** personally?

She's obviously picking on you because of some inherent insecurity she has. Normal people don't constantly try to make another person feel small, and the things she says about/to you don't actually have anything to do with you at all.

She is saying them because of her self. In fact, it would be the height of arrogance to assume that all the things other people say and do are actually about you. They have their own lives to live and do things for their own reasons, just as you do.

Recognize that at some point, you made the mistake of believing her and she convinced you to hate yourself.

If it's in a work environment, start documenting everything she does. When you have enough documentation, sit down with your supervisor or human resources department and expose her abusive behavior. If nothing changes, then change jobs.

She is milking you for your energy in order to make herself feel better.

Suck it up and change the situation. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

So you are shy? That's nothing to be ashamed of. shyness comes in many forms, some guys are shy but tell silly jokes to make people laugh( it covers their shyness) some guys are bullies, ( that too can cover shyness) in your case, have you thought about sending her an e mail, (please make sure you use spell check before sending her an e mail) you could just explain that you'd like to spend some time with her, maybe go to a movie where you wouldn't have to talk much, if she accepts your invitation to the movie, then you know that all the hurt full things she may have been saying about you were her way of covering up HER own shyness. seems to me, if she is spending so much time and effort on insulting you there might be a hidden reason"shyness" like I said it comes in all shapes and forms.

Answer 4

I think you've taken a huge, courageous step by asking your question and asking for the input of a bunch of strangers. You don't suck! You are a sensitive, somewhat shy guy who is easily made uncomfortable by a rude girl. Do not let what she says and feels about you influence you one bit. She drains your energy by attacking you. Don't let this happen. When she approaches, say to yourself "I will not let this girl change who I am. I am kind. I am sensitive. If she chooses to feel hate or spew insults, it is her burden to carry. I choose not to take on her hate or venom."

You can't change how others feel about you. Know that you are a precious and valuable human being and no one can change that. What you can change is how you react. Don't react to negative people. Treat them with complete indifference; otherwise they will erode your soul.

Answer 5

Maybe she doesn't hate you, you just think she does. Maybe she just doesn't know what to say because you are so quiet, or maybe because you don't say anything it's easy for her to manifest her frustrations onto you. You shouldn't worry so much about it, one person shouldn't make you dread doing something so much. Why don't you try to be more open around everyone, it may help you feel better.

Answer 6

Get some self confidence about yourself. Confront this girl and tell her to get off your back.

I know it's hard to deal with rude people, especially when you are nice but then there are times when rude people, need to be put in place and maybe then she will begin to see what a great person you are . If she doesn't her loss.

Answer 7

hmm, well...first, Id ask her, if no improvement has started, than i would ignore her back. lemme ask u this, if she treats u like this, than y do u wanna be friends w her? if i was u, id walk into work, and completely ignore her. dnt say anythin to her... ask everybody else how the days goin, but dnt ask her...make it obvious, maybe shell catch on, if not...move on! u got more chances than some ppl...well, about bein weird, to me, nothins weird. i been around enuf diff types of ppl n surroundings in my life...NOTHING IS WEIRD! well, anotha thing...they say two places to neva have a relationship: work( cuz if sumthin goes sour in da relationship, u still gotta see that person everyday...it could put ur job at risk!) and home (unless its someone u move in w and settle togetha, it aint good to fall in love w a neighbor (usually in apartments) cuz u gotta see em everyday! im startin to think anotha place would even be college :/...well, anyway...hope dis helps, g'luck, take care!

Answer 8

Maybe you can try having one of your mutual friends or co-workers ask her why she is so bothered by you. By having someone else bring it up you can get an honest answer and aren't taking such a risk of asking her yourself.

If all else fails just realize that you are a better person for being fair to everyone.

Answer 9

you seem a little uptight, people arent comfortable around uptight people. Relax a little, dont premeditate conversation and stress yourself over it, just try going with the flow. try taking a speech class to improve your social skills, this has helped many shy people i know. And dont worry about whether she likes you or not, just do your work and talk to those that you know like you. oh and p.s. i highly doubt that she hates you, she probably just hasnt gotten a chance to know you!

Answer 10

Even if she has a reason to dislike you , she should keep it to herself !! SHE is the one with the problem not you ! If you seriously cant deal with her crap anymore look for a opportunity when shes alone and walk up to her and simply ask,"is there a reason you don't like me ? If so get over it !!Your whole attitude towards me sucks !" Hope I helped..