My girlfriend and i have been going out for about a year now and recently i decided to tell her that i loved her. This weekend i saw her and told her that i loved her and she told me she loved me too. Then she told me that she kissed another guy (more than once) 2 nights before. It hurt, but i told her that it'd be okay if she promised me that she wouldn't do it again. She promised and we were fine that day, then the next day she told me that she really liked this other guy and she thought maybe we should just be friends. I dont understand it though, because if she loved me why would she leave me for him. Especially since this other guy has a girlfriend himself and told her that he loved his gf & wouldnt leave his girlfriend. She asked me if that's what i wanted (to just be friends) & of course i said no. So instantly she changed her mind and said we could be together, i'm not sure why she did so i told her maybe we should take a break. I'm not sure what to do. does anyone have advice?
2007-03-19 10:23:26 · 18 answers · asked by Darby B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You poor guy. This girl wants what she can't have. She wants the guy with the girlfriend cause he is a challenge and now you are a challenge to her by not saying yes to being her friend. She wants/needs someone to fall back on. Like the term never burn your bridges. Tough answer I know but she has no clue what she wants but what she can't have. Don't even waste your time on her. She needs to realize for herself what she wants. You know you want her and that's not fair for her to do that to you. Move on! There are plenty of great girls out there that know exactly what they want:) Good Luck!!
2007-03-19 10:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jade AvA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daniel, unfortunately the grass is always greener on the other side. If she is kissing another guy and told you that maybe you two should just be friends then she is taking you for granted and/or maybe she has lost interest in you. If this other guy has a girlfriend then why is he kissing her? Is he just leading her on? Well if she is willing to go for it then that is your answer. I know it hurts but it is better to find out now than later. If she then changes her mind that just means she wants a boyfriend until something better comes along and YOU deserve better than that. Tell her that you deserve better that someone who would cheat on you (even if it's kissing) and you want someone who is totally devoted to you and not on the prowl. If she really cares about you let her chase you for awhile then you can decide if you are willing to give her another chance.
2007-03-19 10:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by 2craz4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is this girl-15? She just sounds a little too immature to be making smart choices about dating. She is evidently quite confused and looking for the "better deal".
You sound like a sincere guy. I would hope that after enough of this kind of treatment, you would hold your head up high, and move on. Good relationships should not be such ahrd work and a constant roller coaster ride. For her to be pitting you against another "suiter" is immature, insensitive, and cruel.
Listen, as a woman that was like that once (long ago), I learned fast that a good man would not take that for long. Most mature level-headed men will send you packing if you don't grow up. Evidently she must like to keep stringing you along. If you don't put an end to it, it doesn't sound like she will either.
Tell her the way you feel, that you love her, and don't want to be just friends (as you said). But, also lether know that you love and respect yourself enough not to be strung along either. See if she comes around and if not, really, be ready to walk away. One year is a long investment to be putting up with your woman kissing other men and saying what a teenager would say "lets be friends". Please! What is that?!
2007-03-19 10:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by Singthing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this girl deserves your love....if she did she wouldn't cheat on you. The fact that she told you she likes this other guy should be a big enough warning to you that she obviously doesn't like you that much...if not she wouldn't like someone else. I'm not telling you to break up with her....because that has to be up to you, but you do need to reevaluate your relationship and see if it's worth staying in. I have a feeling if you take her back she will continue to do the same thing and you will feel really hurt. At least do yourself the favor to take a break ....remember there are plenty of fishes out in the sea that wouldn't cheat on the one they love!
2007-03-19 10:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though she is afraid of hurting you or she is scared of being alone. Due to her actions I don't think she knows what love is. If you want a girlfriend that cares for you as much as you care for her then maybe this is not the girl at this moment. Even if you two date for a while this incident may be reoccurring. Just be careful! You can not have love without trust.
2007-03-19 10:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jayne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We women are emotional creatures... This woman has 2 men running after her... One free and one not.. Could you ask her to pass one of y'all this way. Theres a shortage over here.
Anyways, right now, she doesnt know what she's feeling. Shes having testosterone overload. But you are a sure thing so she put u on the back burner. Sorry... its true, tho. Im sure she didnt mean to, if thats any consolation.
2007-03-19 10:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Just A Newbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this girl alone and find someone worthy of your love.
If you continue in this relationship with her, it will be a rocky rollercoaster dealing with her and her indecisiveness to make a real committment to you. You deserve a woman who will love only you and give you all her attention hugs and kisses.
If you stay, you will get the frame of mind that all women are like her and will never find real love.
2007-03-19 10:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely take a break. Tell her maybe you'll be there when she's ready for a commitment. Right now it really sounds like she's chosen you because this other guy doesn't want her. Find someone who will put you first.
2007-03-19 10:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is messing with your head trying to see how much you care by trying to hurt you. She sounds to be immature and wishy washy. Be careful or I am afraid you are headed for a rollor coaster ride! And it won't be fun either!
2007-03-19 10:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darlin you derserve someone much better ,what she is doin is lying cheating etc BUT it certainly not love
get your facts straight
shes a waste of time and bet your boyyom dollar she dont love you
2007-03-19 10:38:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋