Have you ever felt like all your friends were "growing up" and you were kind of just doing the same ol' thing. Not that it's lazy or not like the SAME thing exactly. Here let me explain. I have four classes left until I graduate/transfer with a degree after this semester (counting this semester, it's six classes), so with two classes in summer and two in fall that should be it. And by the way, I'm 22. Yet I don't have very many friends, and the ones I do/did have are "growing up" so fast in the last few months.
My friend Roger who moved to Utah late last year got a girlfriend for the first time (he's 23) in Utah and now I just found out (looking at his myspace randomly) that he's having a baby. His girlfriend is 17 weeks pregnant. Meaning seems like this baby was an "accident" since 17 weeks is four months and they just started dating like in November 2006. Anyway, my other (ex) friend Dennis, got married last summer to a girl he dated for two months. He has two kids (not his own,
2007-03-19 10:20:59 · 7 answers · asked by Timothy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
biologically). It seems like my friends are starting families, getting married, etc, and me? Well my ex and I broke up last summer. I've dated since, but nothing serious. It feels like I'm doing the same thing, going to college, part time jobs, and here they're having babies, lol. Granted, Dennis dropped out of school these past two semesters to work full-time though.
Anyone else ever felt like this?
2007-03-19 10:23:02 · update #1
yeah I know how you feel . Ugh dont rush getting into the family scene , maybe you & your old friends are just changing . I am friends with my 2 best friends from highschool but we are done with that now , in our 20s. I started a family & she is still single going to school . Were still friends though . Maybe try to make some new friends ... keep your old ones though ;)
2007-03-19 10:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by mommaknowsbest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel left behind. Everyone goes through life at their own pace, not a pace dictated by others. Enjoy being single. I'll bet your friends envy your freedom. Marriage and children are a great responsibility and will take most of what used to be your personal time. Don't rush into it. Do what needs to be done right now. Finish school and get your degree. Find a job that you like in an area of the country that you would like to live it. You will make new friends in your work place and wherever you decide to live. Above all, live life in the present. Have fun and enjoy whatever you are doing each day. Treasure the relative calm in your life right now and feel the joy of change when it comes.
2007-03-19 17:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, taking your time is not a bad thing. And it's not so much them growing up as them taking another step in life, just like you are with graduating. I got married after knowing a guy for 2 months because 1) I thought I was in love, and 2) my other friends all had serious relationships and were in college and living a life I only dreamed of. (I joined the military right out of high school, so no college for me) But, now I'm getting a divorce because it turns out my ex-husband and I have nothing in common. And, we have a daughter, which makes it even worse.
Just because you are taking things slower doesn't mean you aren't "growing up." It gives you more time to make the right decision about where you want to be with your life.
2007-03-19 17:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by end_4706 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Most of my friends have families and great jobs and I'm stuck at walmart trying to start a family and "grow up", but it just isn't happening. I feel like I'm always the "little kid" in the crowd. Maybe it's time to find some new friends with the same goals and lifestyle as you.
2007-03-19 17:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by bamagurl722 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt like you....But I realize that everybody's life is different. We all "grow up" at different times. Nothing is wrong with that. You just gotta do you. You are 22 years old, you will have plenty of time to have a family. Don't worry about other people
2007-03-19 17:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody grows in different ways. Find out what YOU want to do with your life even if it's something simple you like to do. Accept yourself for who you are and life will be better.
2007-03-19 17:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes, yes! It's OK though, because it takes different people different times to do things. I can relate though, and I don't like the feeling.
2007-03-19 17:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by Revelation S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋