When I was nine I was raped. Now at age sixteen I still get scared. I randomly have these images that come up in my mind-It's like a video tape over and over again. They're as if it's happening again. I can't control them. What is wrong with me, and how do I make it stop?
2007-03-19 10:12:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
three of you say the word "flashback" is that an actual name for it?
2007-03-19 11:27:02 · update #1
First of all, sweety...what is happening to you is TOTALLY NORMAL! I'm (quite a bit) older than 16 and I STILL have random images coming up in my mind over things that happened to me. So, if there is something wrong with you -then there is something wrong with me, too -and all the military veterans and car crash victims and everyone else who ever had a traumatic event and still has the memories that sneak back up.
First thing you need to do when this happens is remind yourself that it is only a memory and is not really happening. Remind yourself that there is nothing wrong with you, your brain is just trying to release these thoughts. What happened happened. And best of all it's OVER.
The second thing to remind yourself is that IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. You didn't do anything, say anything, be anything that made this happen. Again, there is nothing wrong with you.
My guess is that you probably didn't tell anyone about it when it happened -or didn't tell anyone you felt you could really trust to "help" you. (My heart hurts for you - that's a lot of responsibility for a young girl to carry all on her own.)
So, if you have someone you feel cares about you (not easy always I know), but like a teacher or counselor at school, a neighbor, family or someone from church you can tell them this, "I'm having trouble dealing with something that happened to me a long time ago and could use a friend or someone to talk to about it." If your gut is right in who you tell, I can bet they will do all they can to help you.
(If you don't already attend a church, you might consider trying out a youth group -it might not help the memories, but will help you learn to trust The Lord more
Much love to you, sweety. You're going to get through this and you're going to be ok. You can email me if you need to.
2007-03-19 10:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite obvious that you need some counseling with a good therapist. You are still hurting and in pain about the horror that happened to you when you were nine years old. Those images that are in your mind is an indication that you need good therapy to talk out your hurt and pain with a professional. If you do this it will start the healing process for you and those terrible images will slowly disappear. I wish you well, and I hope that you will be able to make a life for yourself, finish school, go on to college and become successful. Don't let what this person did to you destroy your life. Therapy is the answer. Good Luck
2007-03-19 17:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your family about this? Or even a counselor? I think there is nothing wrong with you. You had a very traumatic experience when you were young and I am sure you relive it just about every day. You need to talk to someone. I have never been in your situation, but I hope this will help you get on the road to recovery. Maybe you could even check out some websites dealing with this issue if you feel uncomfortable talking about it. Good luck.
2007-03-19 17:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by bamagurl722 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people never get over that fear. My mom hasn't. She says that she will remain heavy set just so men won't look at her.
You should try some therapy. Something like being raped when you are so young has a deeper affect then when you are older and raped.
Sorry this happened to you sweatheart! You need to talk to other that this has happened to. Maybe if you talk about it things can get better for you.
Good Luck
2007-03-19 17:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you it is natural that you would be scared about it because it happened when you where little and I don't really think that there is a way yo make stop having it come into your mind. But there is nothing wron with you anyone else that has been raped I am sure still is scared about it too.
2007-03-19 17:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by Purple Moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem. I am currently going to a therapist and a phychiatrist. I write in a journal everyday. I take long walks and I used to run alot (now not so much b/c i have been having leg problems) I talk about it. Thoughts won't stop. They won't disappear. But you can control them. It takes a long time to learn how to. But there is a way. It's different for everyone. I do breathing exercises. I am still dealing with the problem. My goal is to not let it interfere with living my life. I have let it ruin the good times. Breathing exercises and calming myself helps me.
2007-03-19 17:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey, you have been horribly hurt !
these images will never be able to be erased, for your past is set in concrete.
your future isn't tho....
and you can make it better.
do what i did.....
find the local sexual health clinic and talk to a counselor about this. moving on is very difficult, especially when something is triggering flashbacks .
do not even attempt to be physical with anyone until you can work on this....
and it will be work girlfriend, but if you do the work, you will find yourself getting better....
and what that jerk intended to be a negative force in your life will be turned into a positive force....
you are loved by God....
you are worthy of a good life
2007-03-19 17:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey C, I am sorry for what happened to you and I feel your pain, but believe me, there are only words of consolation to be offered here. The psychological trauma that an event like this can cause can only be treated with the proper care of a seasoned professional specialized to handle such situations. If you are harboring this and have not confided in an adult of your total trust, it is time that you do. Please get this taken care of before it causes you any more hurt. My heart goes out to you!
2007-03-19 17:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with someone to get this over with so you can go on with your life.
Do you have a trusted parent, pastor or counselor at school? Did you get counseling after this happend? If so, go to that person and see if they can recommend someone to talk with. Or better yet, look through the internet and see if there are support groups that can help you.
Good luck...
2007-03-19 17:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you at all. You might want to find a therapist that works with post trauma stress. They can help you find solutions that will work for you and help you move past this.
2007-03-19 17:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋