he lives 2 hours away works all week and attends college every weekend, ive been chattin to him on a regular basis via text and email....and ive made the decision not to really bother him anymore because of his busy schedule.......how do i keep myself from crackin up....picking up the phone......puttin it back...pick up again put back etc etc, he doesnt need some weirdo textn him the whole time.......lol i think im doing myself harm by thinkin i have a chance.....well at the moment any way
2007-03-19 10:09:31 · 20 answers · asked by misssherlock06 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
throw the phone out the window...?
2007-03-19 10:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah honey we all go through that at some point or another. We always find ourselves having a crush or little obssession with someone who is out of reach for one reason or another.
I could give you all the old cliches but you've probably been over them in your head already many times!
Two books I'd seriously recommend are "Why Men Love B1tches" and "He's Just Not That In To You" (written by one of the writers of Sex and the City).
Both are really funny and will have you in stitches - and laughing at your own behaviour. While they will both make you laugh at anything you've done that you consider slightly neurotic, there is a lightly more serious message to "Why men love..." because it makes you so aware of what not to do when you like someone. With a bit of reading you will change your behaviour and even if you don't have him eating out of your hand, there'll be other men soon who will do after reading what I call THE dating bible!!!
Both are available on Amazon and you can view inside the why men love book here: http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1580627560?ie=UTF8&tag=topofthehoffs-21&linkCode=as2&camp=1634&creative=6738&creativeASIN=1580627560
2007-03-19 17:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What helps out a lot is keeping yourself busy. Get involved with some other activities, catch up with your other friends. And if you're working, pick up some more hours. Don't let your entire life revolve around this guy. When things get easier on his part, he'll call first and you guys can take it from there. Many blessings.
2007-03-19 17:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer his texts and his e-mail but start dating other people (it sounds like you are hanging on his every word). Only respond to moves that he makes. Don't take the initiative yourself. See how that goes. If it doesn't go anywhere, then count yourself lucky that you didn't invest a lot of emotional energy in a relationship that you are keeping alive from your end of the phone/computer/cell.
2007-03-27 11:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My motto is:
'If you don't ask you won't get'
You never know he may feels the same about you but too scared to say anything.... My friend was like this once, so she sent a text to him - (my plan) was that if he wasn't interested then she could say she sent it to the wrong person and he would be none the wiser. Turned out he was and they've been together for about 4 years now!!
2007-03-19 17:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something else to do. Read a book, go to the movies, hang out at the mall. Or talk to your other friends more. Maybe once you stop talking to him so much, he will realize that he misses talking to you and start going through what you are now. You never know ...
Good luck!
2007-03-19 17:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by end_4706 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up running or the gym. You will look fantastic and maybe the next time he trys to hook up he will want to visit more often.
In other words, doing something positive for yourself that will pay off no matter the outcome. Really works, been there, done that.
2007-03-19 17:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by knowitall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's only two things that can happen and only 1 way to find out. Come right out with it and put your mind at rest. At worst he can say no. At best you'll probably get someone to take you out once a week because of his schedule. (You'll have to decide whether your happy with this)
Come right out with it ask him out tonight, he wouldn't have given you his phone number if he wasn't half expecting it. Take his first answer though and you know whether or not to move on.
DO IT TONIGHT! GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-27 06:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, is he mad about you? Regardless of his long hours etc, he needs to relax, you and him need to meet and discuss your friendship/relationship, be assertive, show him you mean business and want an answer.
2007-03-27 13:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by dover56dover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave all the texting out,you'll know if your in with a chance if he starts to pester you. If not,then your wasting your time flogging a dead horse.Move on.
2007-03-25 01:47:29 · answer #10 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give him space for his busy schedule. But i would recommend not to loose touch. Do not totatlly stop. Be in his life for him, when he's going through good times and rough times. It's going to be hard giving him some space. But you can do it.
2007-03-19 17:13:39 · answer #11 · answered by Rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋