together we always slept in the bed together. Within the past 2-3 months, he's stopped sleeping with me in the bed. After I found out about some "unfaithfulness" on his part, I figured that must of been the reason why, however, we have since gotten past that, he started sleeping in the bed with me again, until recently, about the past 2 weeks, now he has started sleeping on the couch again, even when the living room is FREEZING. Can someone please tell me why??? When I ask him to come to bed in the middle of the night he says o.k., but then NEVER does. When I ask him why he's not sleeping in the bed he says "I don't know...", another thing, we were having real good, you know, and now, it's been like two weeks, going on three. and he has made no attempt what-so-ever. bout a month ago, he was wanting it atleast twice a week, now not at all???What's up with that? He claims he has other things on his mind, but I think that's horse crap.
2007-03-19 10:08:59 · 23 answers · asked by lilleene29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't accuse him of cheating because you will look like you never really got passed the past. But still keep that in the back of your head, don't be naive. Honestly, my dad doesn't sleep with my mom because she snores or she's all over him and he needs his space. Find out, maybe you step on his space line when you are in bed together. Be careful, don't push him away.
2007-03-19 10:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by Cieeeee <3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out how many women he's been with before you. If it's not many he may feel the need to see what's out there.
You really can't appreciate the good without knowing the bad.
If this isn't the case you may want to hire a spy or just move on. Sounds like he's up to no good. But the fact that he's sleeping out the couch sounds like he does care enough about you that he wont pretend like nothing is going on.
2007-03-19 17:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You answered your own ?? is HORSE CRAP.. There is NO reason why a man/women doesnt sleep in the same bed as your partner.
He is probably cheating or maybe he doesnt want to be in a relationship anymore and he is handling it this coward way.
Sit down and ask him or kick him out.
2007-03-19 17:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in regards to his unfaithfulness, you shouldn't have stayed with him in the first place, because you deserve better than that... aside from that, maybe you snore and you don't realize it... sometimes my wife comes home exhausted from work and gets into a real deep sleep and when she snores, i can't fall asleep unless i had fallen asleep before her... that's kinda reaching for an answer for you, but it is very realistic... i wouldn't want to jump to the conclusion that he is sleeping around again... but don't count that out...
2007-03-19 17:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by ragefury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is having another bout with "unfaithfulness" to me and oddly has a guilty conscience to go with it. Sounds like a good time to re define your relationship as either splits-ville, or "somewhat monogamous" if your ok with that.
2007-03-19 17:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cronides 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other girl might be the problem. Do they have kids together? he might be cheating again. He might just like the couch or he has found out he is gay. He is the one that knows the reason. I would go stay with friends till he gets his head together.
2007-03-19 17:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are right....He is horse crap!! Sweetheart don't you learn from the first mistakes. He's showing the same signs of unfaithfulness. I would leave!! It's not worth it.
2007-03-19 17:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is the very reason why most parents used to say to "save it until marriage." If you think he's been cheating on you again, then you should let him go. If you don't think he's cheating on you, I would mention it casually during dinner and say that you're really concerned about him.
2007-03-19 17:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Homeboy Security 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im not a guy, sorry... hope you dont mind me answering, but it sounds to me like its the same sort of thing.
decide for yourself if you can handle anymore cheating, and if the answer is no... kick him out.
it doesnt seem like he is very committed.
and i mean nothing against you by this, but it seems like he isnt into the relationship. he cheated, he isnt wanting sex, and he is being very distant.
those arent very good signs.
you only get one life to live. is this how you want to spend it?
2007-03-19 17:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by stella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like all the signs are there. I think you already know, but don't want to face the ugly truth. His mind is on someone else, not something else.
2007-03-19 17:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋