The one that I love is married to someone else(yes I know MOVE ON right) but it wasnt so long ago that he told that he loves me. We have a daughter together and it's a little hard to let go of eachother. And I know for a fact that he finds out im dating someone or im moving on, he'll be devestated. But he doesnt let me know what are his plans in the future with his marriage which is not working out. Im not the type of person to pressure someone to do something they dont want to, but at the same time I know he wont let that other person go is because she's PSYCHO!! My daughter needs a full time father and I need someone to take care and love me. How do I let him know or what do I do??
2007-03-19 10:00:12 · 4 answers · asked by VANESSA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hello Other Woman...
I feel for you. It's very unlikely that he'll actually leave his wife, but you already know that, don't you?
I'm happy that you've decided finally to move on and find some permanent happiness for both you and your daughter; you both deserve that.
In reading your question, it seems as though your already made your "points" to be used when you speak with him about moving on.
Don't hedge! Don't waiver! Be firm in your decision, but be sensitive to his feelings as well. Of course, he's gonna be hurt, but hasn't he hurt you by agreeing (tacitly) to be your one and only?
If his lady is Psycho, as you claim, perhaps it's best if you move at least one town away from where you are presently. His behavior towards her may change after you leave and that might make her behavior somewhat radical--better you and yours be not anywhere she knows about.
No matter what method you use of telling him your decision, he'll be hurt. If I were you, I'd first do it in person (you can write your feelings down on a note but don't sign your name (for obvious reasons) then actually make the move immediately thereafter. Don't dilly-dally around or both of you might weaken and you'll be right back where you started.
2007-03-19 10:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by MJ D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree which you will pass out and enable her understand which you do no longer sense your relationship has a destiny except she works with you in scientific care to advance the relationship skills she desires to maintain your loved ones good and healthful. i do no longer understand your relationship with your babies, yet you could think of of it this form. your babies are at an age the place they could see what a healthful relationship is all approximately. they are all boys, so they could see their father a form for a loving, healthful, and respectful relationship. If their male function form is constantly being torn down, what style of relationships will they seek for out while they advance up? Your spouse looks like she is in a thoroughly subjective international the place her ego contains extra weight than all and sundry's opinion. human beings like that don't substitute without severe third occasion counseling and a few severe tension from human beings outdoors the relationship. you could intend to make your marketing campaign with the two your loved ones and hers to enable her understand that her habit is outdoors the norm. If she has been this form her entire existence, her mom and father may be the main suitable human beings to enable her understand that it is not any longer splendid. it is likewise probable going to take your shifting out to enable her understand your severe. i'm of course filling in the blanks in keeping with what you have shared right here, yet while this earrings authentic, i'm hoping the advice helps. good good fortune to your and your babies.
2016-12-15 03:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , exactly what you said here. You want a husband of your own and a man who will be a father to your child.
You should get him to pay child support too.
2007-03-19 10:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST WHAT YOU SAID IN YOUR QUESTION
2007-03-19 10:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋