he says there just friends but hes been calling her at like 1,2, and 3 o`clock in the morning.
2007-03-19 09:56:59 · 49 answers · asked by undiscovered beauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get yourself a real man
Marry him
THEN have babies
When will you chicks learn, anyway!
2007-03-19 09:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
What exactly do you think you will be doing good for your daughter by remaining with a liar and a cheat? All that I can see you'll be doing is delaying what is going to happen eventually, and in any case, raising a daughter to think that's the way things are... for the man of the house to go running around however he wants to while the woman he didn't even think enough of to want to marry stays home and lumps it. What a nice impression for your little girl to carry with her into her adult life. Many girls grow up and copy the exact same thing their mother did with the exact same kind of man. I am sure that isn't what you want for your child. Your little girl needs the example of a mother who has said "NO, I will NOT live this way and be treated like that, because I am worth more than that, and I demand more from the person who wants to make a home and a life with me."
2007-03-19 10:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. It used to be a straight black and white situation, but it's not any more. How long have you been together? Has it done this before? Are you planning on getting married in the future? Does he have player qualities, or good qualities? Is he someone you see yourself growing old with? Does your family like him. Weigh your pro's and cons, if the cons out weigh the pros, then yes, kick him to the curb, but if the pros out weigh the cons... try to work it out. It all depends on how you deal with it as well. You may not be able to deal with the fact that he's been with someone else, and the relationship will suffer for it. A word of advice... if you're willing to forgive him, forget about the cheating and never hold it against him again.
2007-03-19 10:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by luv2help 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get rid of him now while you have the chance. I put up with a cheating boyfriend that turned into a cheating husband. It doesn't stop and will only get worse the more he sees he can get away with it. Show your daughter how strong of a mommy she has and stand up for your morals. Teach your daughter wrong from right. Maybe someday she will view you as her example for her life and choose a good man.
Get out while you have your dignity. It won't be easy but you can do it! :)
2007-03-19 10:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Just a Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes u have a daughter and he cheated on u notelling how many times he has already cheated on u once a man cheat on u the first time no telling when they gonna doitagain so i wouldn't trust him a nd your daughter will understand if he cheated on u then he didn't care about u or his daughter while he was and u shouldn't believe what men say all the timebecause people lie so i wouldn't trust him i know i don't know u but i reallydon't want uto get hurt again good luckand bye
2007-03-21 10:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by shine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide.
But if you just think that he's cheating because he makes phone calls to her at 1, 2 or 3 in the morning, well I think you should have a talk with him.
Sit him down and give him a chance to explain.
Then you gotta decide whether you are going to believe him or not.
And then make your decision. No one else can decide for you.
2007-03-19 10:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by itstoolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask, thats sad. Staying in a bad relationship for the sake of the baby is a mistake jsut like have a baby without being married to a responsible person who will be there to help raise the child. What a world.
2007-03-19 10:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is cheating and you go and try and work it out with him and he says he will not do it again he is lieing just leave him for a couple of days so he will see what he is missing by cheating on you and if he comes back to say sorry lisen to what he is saying and talk it out. Good luck!
2007-03-19 10:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you think your daughter is going to think when she gets older, seeing you with her father and unhappy? Do you really want to set that kind of example for her? Make yourself happy, whether it be with him or someone else. That way your daughter will understand that the only reason she should be in a relationship is to make herself happy, not her "significant other".
I'm going through the same thing right now, so I understand where you are coming from. Just make yourself happy, and she will understand one day. Good luck!
2007-03-19 10:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by end_4706 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't try and work it out with him just for your daughter. You should work it out with him for you. Its not fair to stay with a man just because you have children together its not fair to you, him or the child. But I do think that if you do end it, you should keep things civil for your child. Its important to have both parents involved in there life regardless of how they feel about one another, and neither parent should ever say anyhting bad about the other to the child. But its your decision, it might be nothing. You should confront him.
2007-03-19 10:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by juli_jugz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, why do you call it cheating? He's not married to you so what's the problem?
Yeah I know this is not going to be popular, and I do agree it is wrong for him to do this... but it is just as wrong for you to have a baby with him when there is no lifetime commitment.
I know, everybody wants to have all the goodies and not have to pay for them... well, you're paying for having "freedom from the stupid old traditional way", and the currency you're having to use is called "an uncommited boyfriend"
2007-03-19 10:38:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋