there is this girl who wanted to go out with me 4 months ago, she said this to her friends and not to me, but all i could hear was her friends screaming then rushing over to me asking if i would go out with her and i said yes, but obvously life isnt as easy as that. she started laughing and said that she said that she was joking. now the feelings that I had for her are coming back to me. the other day i thought i heard her friends shouting out my name. i also heard these words, you have got to ask him out. but i wasnt to sure if they were talking about me or not. please help me, also how the hell am i going to be able to ask her out alone, because it sounds dodgy, can i speak to you for a moment please
2007-03-19
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➔ Singles & Dating
You'll never look that stupid asking a girl out so long as you're not sleazy about it. If a guy ever asks me out I take it as a compliment so long as he's not cocky or rude.
Sieze an opportunity when she's not with her friends and strike up a conversation. Suggest casually that you maybe grab a coffee together or something easy like that. If you ask her on a proper date she may feel pressured or nervous and say no. Even if she does say no, take it on the chin and do 't worry about your image - it's part of being a man and you'll find most casanova's get plenty of knock-backs!
2007-03-19 10:31:07
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answered by Anonymous
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However dodgy it may sound, and however much her and her mates giggle, most girls would appriciate that you are making the effort to come over and speak to her alone, instead of getting all your mates involved therefore making it more embarrassing for the both of you... or (i take it your at school) if you can find a time in class where you may be near her and write her a note (make sure no-one else sees it cos trust me it aint good to have it read out lol) its cute to write little messages to each other... well i think its really cute... but i spose it just depends on this girl doesn't it... don't worry about making a fool of your self... because everyone goes through it... and more likely some other gossip will have gone round and your little mishap(which i really doubt it will be from what you've said) will be forgotten... so really don't worry about it!! i know its daunting but you will be glad to get it out of the way!
2007-03-19 09:58:12
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answered by Anonymous
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Just ask :-)
First of all, it's not dodgy to ask to speak with her for a moment. I can see, though, that if she's always surrounded by a group of giggling, screaming, and dramatic friends, the situation might be intimidating. But you have to ask yourself: is this girl worth the risk? Are you going to regret it if you never ask her out?
If you are nervous and want to start out casual, ask her to do something low-key. Or ask if she and her friends want to do something with you and your friends. There's less pressure that way.
If you have some close friends who are better at these situations, you could see if they can distract the girl's friends for a little while (enough time for you to ask her out!) or if they'd be willing to do a group thing with you. But I can tell you one thing---don't have them ask her out for you! A girl wants to know that you have the guts to approach her on your own.
Of course, situations like this are never easy, but sometimes you have to take a leap of faith. That said, if the girl's friends act like she likes you, she probably does. So just do it :-)
Good luck!
2007-03-19 10:05:27
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answered by Writer_in_Training 2
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The same stupid thing happened to me when I was younger! Seriously! Now, you have to get away from them and no longer pay any attention to these creeps. They are all creeps when those kind of jokes are played. Find another chick to check out. She played that 4 months ago. That is cruel and even if she had a change of heart I wouldn't want that kind of girlfriend now matter how hot she looked.
2007-03-19 09:57:08
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answered by katobow 4
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Get to understand what issues she likes and do them too. Get to understand her as a chum and be severe high quality to her, regardless of the undeniable fact that no longer overly severe high quality! Then perhaps if youre talking sometime and she or he says she like videos or ice skating or despite ask her casually if she might prefer to circulate with you a while. As for kissing-nicely that basically happens! Theres a 2d once you look into eachothers eyes and then basically choose for it! yet as somebody else pronounced, verify she needs to!
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answered by ? 3
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Forget about it. You are still in highscool. Play the cool hand and forget about them, there is plenty of time for that ****, besides it sounds like you will be going out with her and all of her friends. You may not be aware of this yet but women who group like that are trouble, and i don't mean the good kind of trouble.
2007-03-19 09:57:47
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answered by Anonymous
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Dude you just gotta go for it. You gotta go big or go home. so id say just forget about looking stupid for a second(i mean what the hell does it matter what others think of you) and go over to her and ask her to hang out sometime. you dont have anything to lose so go for it
2007-03-19 10:01:22
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answered by Anonymous
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Trick is.. don't "ask her out". Just become friends and get to know her. Try and catch her alone, and just have convos with her. You won't know unless you talk to her, without thinking "I wana go out with her"
2007-03-19 10:06:09
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answered by Anonymous
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now ask yourself if you really want to go out with this girl....if the answer is "yes" then hurry your butt over and ask before another guy does! asking doesn't hurt but letting some guy ask her first, well....are you still standing there.....Move it! lol.. good luck....
2007-03-19 09:58:40
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answered by blueJean 6
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You have to try to approach her when her friends aren't around.
Can you just drop by her house one evening?
2007-03-19 09:56:18
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answered by Anonymous
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