Okies, so exactly how do I let go of this guy who's been playing games with me? I can't believe he's talking to other girls!. And playing mind games with me. The trust is destroyed. And he still wants me as a friend with benefits?
When you say "drop him cold" or "let him go" does this mean to ignore him forever? Or end it with a final goodbye? I do feel like he's making me hang on...Please help, I am really hurt by him...and can't believe he would be so childish as to making me jealous lately. But also, keeping me on the back burner!
He's pulled the "i dont want you out of my life forever" line....he may do it again. So what do i do? Say no we cant be friends, it's Over?
2007-03-19 09:40:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are better than him, so tell him you will remain friends but without the benefits. Then leave it up to him. If he wanders off, you will know that it was the benefits that kept him there to start with. Its going to be his lost and not yours. You don't need someone like him so you have the chance to turn the cards. Do it.
2007-03-27 03:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jerry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the absolute best thing that you can do for yourself is to cut him off cold. Tell him, there is no way in hell that you're going to hang around and wait for him to decide he wants you while he goes and diddles anything in a skirt.
You have to have more respect for yourself! There are probably plenty of guys out there that would be faithful and want more than just "friends with benefits" day to day.
Stand up to this guy, tell him no way no more. Tell him you won't be staying friends because you don't like the way he treats you, and that friends don't treat each other like that.
2007-03-27 16:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by usa_armywife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Say, 'No we can't be friends. It's over.' Then live your life like you mean that - don't enjoy all the games he's going to play when he wants to prove that he can get you whenever he wants you. You'll get a bunch of attention from him (but you'll be the friend giving him 'benefits') and then he will cheat on you or dump you.
Don't even give him the opportunity. Tell him it's over and get on with your life. Put that guy out of your life.
2007-03-27 11:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are allowing yourself to be put on the back burner, then you are saying good-bye to your self-respect and dignity. This guy needs no explanation , and he deserves no more of your time. He's a player and probably has many "benefits" going on. Yes, just ignore him and accept the fact that it is time for you to move on. Girl, never be any man's door mat.
2007-03-19 16:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him - don't even have the conversation with him again.. just start acting like you have better things to do, be civil but don't go out of your way for him again and don't trust him - he's spineless if he can't truly tell you what he's thinking.. and if he was a friend he wouldn't hurt you like this - so just move on.
2007-03-26 22:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by gorg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he doesn't want you out of his life forever, only for when you're inconvenient. If he can't be your friend, and you can't deal with him on that level, or if you can't agree to see other people, putting him on the friend level, you need to have the goodbye talk, and his feelings on this will be irrelevent.
2007-03-19 16:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by Grace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you what you are willing to put up with. If you want a relationship where you a like a banana, just one of the bunch, then more power to you. If you don't want a boyfriend who has a girl on every corner tell him so long we are through.
He isn't going to change. Given your history I don't think he will settle for just being platonic friends.
2007-03-27 16:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, who are you? Who is he? Is he going to be in your life, really? or is he a numb nut who will never amount to anything and you are in line with a scholarship? HM?
Situations count.
If you love, express this in ways other than fruitless confrontations. But, be utterly transparent. Like as not, your friend is more confused than you will ever be.
You might save a numb nut like I was.
2007-03-27 15:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by Wade H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweety let go ok youre going to end up getting hurt even more. You kno go to a club and have fun try to meet a new guy and forget about that guy go wit hsome girls. please trust me it happend to me and look at me now i let go of the other guy and met a new one and we have been together for 3 years and 7 months and were getting married in 2 years. trust me and you will never remember that he was in your life you will realize he was a total mistake. Good luck. please trust me.
2007-03-19 16:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by Traviesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop allowing someone to treat you this way. You need to set boundaries with him and keep them. If he doesn't respect you enough to treat you well, then move on. He can't have it both ways. He wants sex with you and everyone else. If that is okay with you great, but it doesn't sound like it is. Cut your losses. You deserve someone better.
2007-03-27 16:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Terri Klapperich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋