I am a muslim. I have found a bf who I love and who loves me back. My parents haven't accepted him from the begining and never agreed with our relationship. So we cannot marry without our parents' consent
He asked me to move into his appartment and I would like to.
Would it be wrong for us to live together without being married?
2007-03-19 09:39:56 · 18 answers · asked by Mishaj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i am 23 and he is 26. but we need our parents' consent because our religion.
2007-03-19 22:50:53 · update #1
This is 2007. It's okay for you to live together before marriage in society's eyes. Whether or not it's okay for you as a Muslim, I don't know (since I'm not Muslim).
If you want to live with him, then do so (assuming that you're an adult) but be prepared for your parents to flip out. It sounds as if they don't like him very much and if you move in there, they may be more upset.
It sounds as if your parents are very clear that they don't want you to get married. Do you know why? It might be worth asking....
But for now, if you want to live with him, do so! In the end, it's your life.....and if he makes you happy then more power to you.
2007-03-19 09:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by soccerref 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is he Muslim also as you mention you can't get married without "your" parents consent?
Since they have never accepted him or agreed to your relationship how will they deal with you living together?I can't see where they would approve.I don't know much about the Muslim faith but what do they say about living together?
You have to decide what is most important in your life.Him or your family and you should give it a great deal of thought.
The way of the world now seems to be people "living" together and I see nothing wrong with that.If you love him and trust him enough and he respects you then I would say do it.
What about repercussions down the road if you should have children etc.? Will your Muslim faith stand by you or turn you away? You have a big decision to make and I wish you the best.
Just search your heart and you will know what to do.
2007-03-19 16:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are going to say yes, and some people are going to say no. It is a matter of opinion. Now my question is, how come you can't get married without your parents consent but you can move into his appartment? If you are willing to move in with him (I am sure you parents are against this to), why not just marry him if that is what you want to do. My only guess is you are under age and that is why you need you parents consent in order to get married. If that is the case you need to wait until you are of legal age, then do what you want.
2007-03-19 16:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's for you to decide. It may go against your beliefs, but you have to make the decision. Loads of people live together and they are not married. If you do move in, make sure you both agree on things. If you break up it would be really hard with moving out and separating items and stuff. Plus if you're not married, there are no strings attached, it'll be like roommates! But you guys are just roommates that date. lol!
2007-03-19 16:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Hugo rocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would. But can I ask...how old are you. If you cant get married without your parent's consent then you sound like you're still a teenager. And if you go and move into his apartment, then he will get arrested for abduction of minor and satutory rape. Think about it. If you are old enough to be considered an adult, well I am still against liberal union but no one's gonna stop you. You should get married first.
2007-03-19 16:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
legally if you are over 18 your parents have no say. If you know that he is the one then go for it hun. Don't let anyone stop you from following your heart. Your parents may not like it at first but in time hopefully they will accept it. best of luck
2007-03-19 17:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by jessicamichelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I live with my husband to be. He was my bf for 8 year while we lived toaghther he just asked me to marry him. You and your BF love each other and wish to be married. So just say your engyed until you can get married. Nothing wrong with that as long as its your plan.
2007-03-19 16:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sekkennight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a Muslim, you already know the answer. If you want to behave like an unpaid concubine and disrespect your parents and yourself- and he's OK with you doing that, I feel sorry for you.
2007-03-19 17:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be wrong. As a Christian, marriage is something sacred that comes from God. And that man would not be your husband. Were will you sleep in the same bed? Dont try to isolate one union (intamacy) when it is ment to be the entire union marrage has to offer.
2007-03-19 16:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say no..... in this day and age, I think it's better to live together and see if you can make it work before getting married. You'll find out very quickly if your can make it long term by trying to live together first.
2007-03-19 17:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋