Parents dealing with step parents - Did you really think about this before making a baby?

Question

I'm wondering if when couples decide to have children, they think about what will happen if they split and step parents come into the picture.

I think I'm a very good stepmom (actually - I'm technically not a stepmom - I just live with my boyfriend) but - I am really not liked by the biological Mom. Partly, my attitude is - "Well - I wouldn't be around if you hadn't left your kid's Dad when she was only one year old" (I came into the picture when she was two).

Are you a parent who has a step parent in your child's life who you don't care for - and don't want around your children? If so - did you ever consider that this scenario could happen before you split - and how much baring did it have on your decision?

Answer 1

I'm kinda in the same situation, but the father left me for another woman (just walked out one night and that was it) and I don't care for her and/or want around my child. I'd never thought he'd leave us but i guess nothing is forever but I didn't do anything to make him leave he chose to leave and he knew how i felt about any other person around my child so am i wrong for not allowing it and/or wanting it so since i dont that means he doesn't spend time with the child and/or pay support...so should i allow my child around his gf and have him pay child support and/or is that wrong too. To answer your question i dont think you think about it because at the time your so in love and you think and hope and pray it will last forever but one a party chooses to walk out in my opinion the party that walked out loses because they broke the deal...ya know..just one womans opinion in a similar situation...let me know what you think about my situation